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amother
Purple


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 7:59 am
amother [ Ivory ] wrote:
I honestly never heard of people going in the backyard until this thread. You wait your turn if someone else is in the bathroom, and if you're in there and someone is banging on the door, you hurry up and finish! All it takes is a little self control and consideration.

Doesn't work for someone with gastrointestinal issues.
There's a reason the Talmud says someone who suffers from stomach issues is automatically exempted from gehinnom, bec they already experience it in this world.
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amother
Natural


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 8:27 am
We are a family of 7 and for many years had 2 full bathrooms. BH we were able to do construction on our home and added a Master bathroom and another half bath, so we now have 4 toilets and 3 baths. As one of my children later developed Crohn's and spent a lot of time in the bathroom until we got it under control, I am thankful every day for each added toilet.
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amother
Ivory


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 8:55 am
amother [ Purple ] wrote:
Doesn't work for someone with gastrointestinal issues.
There's a reason the Talmud says someone who suffers from stomach issues is automatically exempted from gehinnom, bec they already experience it in this world.

We have gastritis and other stomach issues in the family that flare up. No one needs to stay in the bathroom for an hour consecutively.
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amother
Purple


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 9:21 am
amother [ Ivory ] wrote:
We have gastritis and other stomach issues in the family that flare up. No one needs to stay in the bathroom for an hour consecutively.

Speak to my cousin who has had numerous hospital stays due to gastrointestinal issues. Yes when she has a flare up she can spend an hour or more in the bathroom. She is under care of a top specialist, it's not a simple matter of diet or "self control."
Imagine having daily bouts of painful constipation or diarrhea for months at a time and be scared to leave the house lest she experience the urgent need for the bathroom.
Speak to the people who tragically end up wearing colostomy bags etc after undergoing years of torture and sugery. I don't think you'd make a naive and frankly offensive statement like that again. I really think you owe pple who suffer from this sort of torture an apology. What an ignorant and arrogant thing to say.
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amother
Ivory


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 9:32 am
amother [ Purple ] wrote:
Speak to my cousin who has had numerous hospital stays due to gastrointestinal issues. Yes when she has a flare up she can spend an hour or more in the bathroom. She is under care of a top specialist, it's not a simple matter of diet or "self control."
Imagine having daily bouts of painful constipation or diarrhea for months at a time and be scared to leave the house lest she experience the urgent need for the bathroom.
Speak to the people who tragically end up wearing colostomy bags etc after undergoing years of torture and sugery. I don't think you'd make a naive and frankly offensive statement like that again. I really think you owe pple who suffer from this sort of torture an apology. What an ignorant and arrogant thing to say.

Excuse me. No need to be insulting.

Your cousin is obviously an extreme case. I assume that most people on this thread don't have stomach issues at that level. If it's a special case like that, well then yes, obviously an additional bathroom is needed, the same way accommodations would be needed for any other severe illness. Presumably, those who complained about their childhoods didn't have siblings with severe illnesses to that degree, just regular IBS/gastritis or whatever.

Lots of people have stomach issues and end up spending hours in the bathroom, but they can feasibly break it up into shorter intervals if so inclined. IME, the people who spend the most time in the bathroom in an average family are generally the ones who are taking advantage of the bathroom time to chill out.
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amother
Purple


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 10:13 am
I know my cousin's case well that's true. However she is not a rare case at all.
I just know her details because Im close to her. People who suffer from serious gastric issues (no your family's "cases" do not qualify) 1. generally do not talk about in public bec it's private not to mention embarrassing 2. Is fairly common in Ashkenazi Jewish DNA, so yes, there are more people out there suffering even in your circles than you are aware of.
Your post just shows your ignorance. Feel free to do some research
There is plenty out there available.

You certainly do owe an apology for your lack of compassion but I won't hold my breath on it.
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amother
Ivory


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 10:20 am
amother [ Purple ] wrote:

You certainly do owe an apology for your lack of compassion but I won't hold my breath on it.

I most definitely do not "owe" you any apology for having a different opinion than you. If anything, you are the one who attacked, and if I were the type to demand apologies I would be well within my rights to do so.
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amother
Aquamarine


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 10:45 am
amother [ Wheat ] wrote:
I was that 12 and 14 year old girl with the rule of draw the curtain so someone can use the bathroom. (We were 14 with 1 1/2 baths).
It was so violating.
And having the family "tribunal" decide how long acceptable showers were, or how long a bowel movement should take, and at what point I'm wasting everyone's time?


I specifically wrote that "This worked because my children were youngish".
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amother
Wheat


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 10:51 am
amother [ Aquamarine ] wrote:
I specifically wrote that "This worked because my children were youngish".


True.
But I'm also talking to all those posters who are commenting on the acceptability of various bathroom length.
I didn't appreciate the family commenting and judging on whether 8 minutes is too long or fine, whether my wiping habits are sufficient or OCD, whether I really can pause and resume later, even if I said I couldn't.
Seriously. I wasn't chilling.
But I did (and do) suffer from constipation during my period, sometimes have more "messy stool" that takes more time to clean.
I shouldn't need to defend myself.
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amother
Seashell


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 11:22 am
My father was one of 6 children. Their house in which they grew up was an unupdated Victorian built in the 1870s so the square footage was large but there still only 2 bathrooms. The house c. 1920 in which I was raised in a family of 5 had 1.5 baths as did DH’s same era house except he was from a family of 7. I don’t remember fighting with siblings over needing a commode although there WERE arguments about shower time and using all the hot water.

DH and I had 1 bathroom in 1 house up to 4.5 in two others. Houses built after the 1950s on average have more bathrooms than larger, older homes .
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amother
Crimson


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 12:20 pm
6 people, 1 very small very basic bathroom with one each bathtub, tiny sink, toilet. No room for a washer or dryer or hamper, though I do a lot of hand laundry and hang it over the tub to dry.
One learns to work fast.
Announce your plans to take a shower so anyone who needs to can relieve themselves before you go in.
Announce your suspicion that you're going to be in for a long relief session so anyone who needs to can relieve themselves before you go in.
Buy a potty chair, not just a potty ring, so if need be, a small child can use it outside the bathroom if the room is occupied.
Bathroom is for personal hygiene and sanitation, not reading, chatting on the phone, trying on clothes, hairstyling, makeup, beauty treatments or sulking. These are all done in one's bedroom unless announced in advance so anyone who needs to can relieve themselves before you go in.
We have no reading material of any sort in there, unless you count the labels on the products in the medicine chest.
Guys shave in their room.
If you can, stagger wakeup times or at least morning hygiene routine times. Some get to wash face and brush teeth before dressing, some dress first.
Use timers to make sure people don't lose track of time and outstay their welcome.
I get up between 4 and 5 a.m. depending on what needs to be done before leaving for work. Although nobody else is up at that hour, I still set a timer for my shower and try to get out and dry off the tiles before it rings.
DH, who thinks a bathroom is a spa and likes long, long, long hot showers, showers late at night after everyone else has called it a day.
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amother
Slateblue


 

Post Wed, Mar 03 2021, 12:35 pm
Family of 7. 5 bathrooms but 3 are off limits so that leaves 2- 1 for us and 1 for the kids. Laundry not in bathroom. We haven't felt pinched yet but none of the kids are teens so maybe that makes a difference.
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