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Do you go to siblings L’Chaim?

Yes

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Total Votes : 115

amother

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 7:22 pm

It’s at a pretty inconvenient time and place but I’m determined to go, DH thinks I should just skip it though.

Is it normal to not go? I feel like it would be really weird if I didn’t show up but I’m not sure

amother

Peach

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 7:24 pm

I try tried to go to all but it wasn't always possible. Some were in a different city or late at night.

nechamashifra

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 7:35 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Putting aside whether it's weird or not, what is life all about? Take the inconvenience and celebrate your sibling's l'chaim with them. They'll be happy you came. You'll be happy you went.

avrahamama

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 7:36 pm

Yes!

Unless it's oot or there's is something urgent pressing at home.

amother

Slategray

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 7:41 pm

Yes. Even when it was a couple hours drive.

Although I wasn't so busy then... Nowadays, If it's a very inconvenient time, I would go to my side and DH to his. But we would make a huge effort so we are both able to attend.

amother

Peach

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 7:43 pm

By us there's usually a small lechayim right when the shidduch happens and then a big vort later on. The lechayim can sometimes be last minute and it's normal if not all family can make it.

amother

Azure

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 7:51 pm

I don’t go, I RUN! (In most normal circumstances)

amother

Royalblue

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 8:06 pm

I always go to the vort . I go to the lechaim if practical.

notshanarishona

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 8:51 pm

If it’s local for sure

mommyhood

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 9:23 pm

If I'm given advance notice then I go even if it's impractical. If I'm told day of then not necessarily.

amother

Crimson

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 9:24 pm

Will there be a vort or tnoyim?
If yes, then you can skip if not in your city. If this is no vort, try to go.

amother

Puce

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 9:34 pm

You go unless you absolutely can't.

amother

Silver

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 10:02 pm

My also depended on family size.
If you are one of 3 and 6 years apart a d live local, of course.
If you are one of 15 and 12 or 20 years apart, different genders, and have little relationship and 82 first cousins/nieces/nephews then I can see not needing to going.

amother

Ecru

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 10:02 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Ur sibling??? Go!

SuperWify

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 10:05 pm

Why would you not go?

(Unless your in jail cvs or in labor or very sick.)

wiki

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 10:23 pm

My first instinct is to say GO!

But then I remembered the time my SIL got engaged (DH's sister), and it was on a weeknight, and she and chosson were not likely to arrive at the house after the proposal until who-knows-when (I think it ended up being in the mid-11s pm), and it was across town, and we didn't have a car, and the baby was asleep...and DH didn't go.

He felt a little bit guilty that he didn't, but no one gave him any hard time about it.

Chayalle

Thu, Apr 29 2021, 10:45 pm

Yes for sibling.

Didn't travel in for nieces though.

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