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amother

Wed, May 12 2021, 4:16 pm

Who do you normally gift with flowers for shavuos? And do you send flowers to your machatonim?

yksraya

Wed, May 12 2021, 4:18 pm

We send to my mom and mil.

No mechutanim yet...

amother

Sienna

Wed, May 12 2021, 4:23 pm

No one. I never heard of this minhag.

(We buy for ourselves a few small bouquet for $20 or so)

amother

Wed, May 12 2021, 4:27 pm

I'd love to sent to my children's inlaws. Is this idea weird?

watergirl

Wed, May 12 2021, 4:33 pm

No one. Is this a thing? We do go to Home Depot and pick out flowers to plant in front of our house…

amother

Goldenrod

Wed, May 12 2021, 4:33 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I'd love to sent to my children's inlaws. Is this idea weird?

No not weird. We don't get anyone but would be quite pleased to receive as a gift...

Any effort towards your children's in laws will bring good feelings between the couple. You can't lose.

amother

cornflower

Wed, May 12 2021, 4:38 pm

Nobody.
When my dc were in school, their school ran a shavuos flowers project as a fundraiser, so I'd buy for a couple of immediate family members who lived nearby, but then the project was discontinued.

amother

Wed, May 12 2021, 5:01 pm

Thanks everyone

amother

Powderblue

Wed, May 12 2021, 5:02 pm

I send cheesecakes not flowers but I hope this isn't becoming another mandatory shalach manos that we all have to conform to.

amother

Silver

Wed, May 12 2021, 5:05 pm

OP, I think it's a lovely idea. It wouldn't be seen as weird- it would be received happily. And it could be a small, nice bouquet or whatever- doesn't need to be grand.

amother

Coral

Wed, May 12 2021, 5:17 pm

Funny I was just coming on here to ask the same question.
I used to give flowers from my sons yeshiva fundraiser to my machatanim that lived close by and they gave me cake because they are great bakers.
For some reason that stopped.
Now my son is engaged and the girls family lives close by so I am thinking of sending flowers but I dont want to make it a think I must do every year.

amother

Wed, May 12 2021, 6:08 pm

amother [ Coral ] wrote:

I think if you send during the engagement then there won't be an expectation to receive every year. During the engagement is different

amother

Wed, May 12 2021, 6:09 pm

amother [ Powderblue ] wrote:

I send cheesecakes not flowers but I hope this isn't becoming another mandatory shalach manos that we all have to conform to.

Do you send cheesecakes to all your machatonim?

amother

Blue

Thu, May 13 2021, 10:25 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I'd love to sent to my children's inlaws. Is this idea weird?

It's really nice!
My parents have 6 mechutanim, one of them is very wealthy and they always send things to my parents, like a cake, chocolates or flowers every time my parents make a simcha, a grand shalachmanos, etc.
My parents really appreciate it! Although they don't send back to them more than what they give to other mechutanim.

amother

Maroon

Thu, May 13 2021, 10:26 am

I buy flowers for myself!

love vegetables

Thu, May 13 2021, 10:39 am

We buy for parents and n laws

ShishKabob

Thu, May 13 2021, 10:53 am

It's a nice idea to send to machatonim. It's not a must, but it's a nice gesture during the engagement. It doesn't mean that you must do it each year. If you want to, you definitely CAN do it each year if you like.

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