Bringing mil a photo of kids during shiva

amother

Thu, Jun 03 2021, 2:07 pm

Making a trip to me menacham avel mil. I have a beautiful pic of her and the kids id love to give her. Is it extremely inappropriate during shiva? Won’t be seeing her for a while after this ...

Chayalle

Thu, Jun 03 2021, 2:13 pm

It could possibly be a Halachic issue, if it falls under the category of giving a gift, which I don't think you can do during Shiva.

Not sure though...but could be a question for your LOR.

watergirl

Thu, Jun 03 2021, 2:31 pm

Chayalle wrote:

It could possibly be a Halachic issue, if it falls under the category of giving a gift, which I don't think you can do during Shiva.

Not sure though...but could be a question for your LOR.

Just a note on this. I know you and I both sat shiva for parents. There are pretty much no halachos regarding shiva, aveilus, etc. Just about everything we do is strong minhag. This is not a halachic issue per say, but I agree to ask your LOR.

Chayalle

Thu, Jun 03 2021, 3:20 pm

watergirl wrote:

I would not want to have this discussion here and derail this thread, but I've heard this before.....but have heard this presented as Halacha. But because I was unsure of this, I wrote it as just a possibility and to check with LOR. And since OP was asking if it's appropriate.....perhaps to check how her MIL would feel receiving it.

I found the whole "halachos of aveilus" (or whatever you want to call it) as very confusing, and so many differences between every LOR that any of us asked (we are 7 sisters B"AH, and sometimes got that many variations) with some holding some of these strong minhagim as Halacha, and some not....

Perhaps OP could give the picture to her FIL.....