How to help husband become a better dad

amother

Sun, Aug 15 2021, 7:17 pm

I'm close to giving birth and it makes it harder for me to take care of our kids. Whenever my husband offers help it's usually by putting them a video to watch. I've asked him to shower our five year old and he immediately just told the five year old to do it himself. I mean, I could've done that, that's not the point. Five year old didn't see his dad all day and he wanted some time with him. I've also asked my husband to sit with them a little to sooth them to sleep, which he did for 5 minutes before disappearing into his office. To be fair, yes, he works hard. If I was able to move more I wouldn't even ask him but here we are. I think he might have inherited this behavior from his parents. His parents express their love in objects but I couldn't even get them to read a story for our kids and I assume that my husband just grew up without tools of spending quality time. My husband reads stories and takes them out to the park sometimes but it makes me sad it's not more often. I don't want to nag him about it. Is there a way to help him find joy in taking care of them?

Ps he did read them a story after he left his office, so maybe I overreacted to tonight. Anyway, still appreciate responses.

amother

Acacia

Sun, Aug 15 2021, 10:13 pm

My husband would have done the exact same thing . Tell the five year old to shower, turn on a video. All classic. That’s great that he read them a book! Please don’t nag him now. Just verbally express your appreciation and truly feel it too. You’re nine months pregnant and very hormonal and and in nurturing mode so it’s bothering you... but it really shouldn’t . Kids don’t need two mommies.