Need help with dvar Torah

amother

Cantaloupe

Wed, Oct 06 2021, 4:07 pm

I just wrote this one but it has to do with Breishis. Maybe you can try to tie it to Noach too? Like Noach and his children had to rebuild the whole world after the mabul …

In this past week’s parsha, Parshas Bereishis, right after Chava is created, Adam and Chava are given their very first commandment. Perek Bais, Pasuk Chaf Daled states – Al kain yaazov ish es aviv v’es imo, v’yidabek b’ishto… Man should leave his father and mother and cling to his wife. Rabbi Lau asks in his autobiography, why does this pasuk start with a negative. If Hashem is giving his first command to the couple, maybe it could have started off rosier by saying – have a wonderful life with your wife, which should probably entail leaving your father and mother?
Rabbi Lau gives a drash on why the pasuk is structured this way. How does a young couple know how to treat each other and live together peacefully? They only know how to do this by emulating the home life of their father and mother. Therefore, Hashem tells them to take leave of their father and mother with the lessons and the building blocks of a Jewish home that they have seen from their parents, and only then will a man be able to properly cling to his wife and build a strong Jewish home.
Rabbi Lau continues and states that “Yaazov” also has the language of “Izavon” which means inheritance. The young couple inherits the modeling that the parents have so diligently embodied, and this allows them to carry on with building a beautiful bayis neeman b’yisroel.
It is our blessing to the chosson and Kallah that you both take along the lessons that you have seen in your parents’ homes and use them as you go forward on your journey. Kallah, you certainly have fantastic role models in your parents and grandparents, and while we don’t know the Chosson’s family so well, from what we have heard they are also tremendous role models.
Im Yirtzeh Hashem we should continue to share in many more simchas.