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amother
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:02 am
Grrrrr it’s so frustrating. I love giving gifts and getting gifts. I know not to expect anything at this point but I still can dream. I’ve told him straight out. Doesn’t have to be anything major, even a bar of chocolate! Makes me feel like he’s thinking about me! His response? “I always think about you 🙄” whatever, I know it’s stupid, I’m just venting.
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amother
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:04 am
Buy yourself a gift and ask him to give it to you.
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amother
Milk
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:06 am
I'm with you.
I don't expect anything at this point, and it doesn't do anything for me to buy presents for myself, so I've just accepted that other people get presents and I don't.
It's painful.
My dh's love language is acts of service, which I don't especially appreciate, but he's not changing, so I just try to appreciate the things he does for me. Sometimes works and sometimes doesn't.
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amother
Milk
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:08 am
amother [ Brickred ] wrote: | Buy yourself a gift and ask him to give it to you. |
Personally, that doesn't feel good at all.
It's like telling someone "here's a compliment that you should tell me. Now please tell it to me."
It's not the Thing I need. It's the giving. Bring gifted something out of love.
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amother
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:09 am
amother [ Milk ] wrote: | Personally, that doesn't feel good at all.
It's like telling someone "here's a compliment that you should tell me. Now please tell it to me." |
Agree. I want to get a gift that he felt I deserve. Not one I bought myself, that’s not a gift in my books.
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Sewsew_mom
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:10 am
Mine isn't gifts.. And I still like to feel thought of every so often. My husband never buys me gifts. It would be nice!
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amother
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:12 am
I actually think the hardest love language is gifts. Bh Dh and I don’t have it. If he did I KNOW it would be super super hard for me. I’m not super thoughtful like that. Life feels very chaotic at times and it would be a constant pressure for me. Dh love language is words of affirmation. Even thou there are times I find it hard I definitely am able to achieve this with a lot less effort
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amother
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:14 am
amother [ Milk ] wrote: | Personally, that doesn't feel good at all.
It's like telling someone "here's a compliment that you should tell me. Now please tell it to me."
It's not the Thing I need. It's the giving. Bring gifted something out of love. |
I would love a compliment like that.
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amother
Milk
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:17 am
amother [ Brickred ] wrote: | I would love a compliment like that. |
Huh? You would tell your dh "Please tell me I look beautiful" so he says "you look beautiful" and now you feel like he thinks you're beautiful?
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amother
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Sun, Nov 28 2021, 10:19 am
amother [ Milk ] wrote: | Huh? You would tell your dh "Please tell me I look beautiful" so he says "you look beautiful" and now you feel like he thinks you're beautiful? |
Not that exact example because it's not the compliment I'm looking for. But for the compliments I want to hear, it wouldn't make a difference if I asked for it or not or if the person believes it or not. I just want to hear a good word.
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