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Co sleeping s/o

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amother

Sat, Jan 15 2022, 10:44 pm

I don't mean to come across mean or know it all.
Can someone explain what exactly do you have to learn about co sleeping??

All my kids cried in their cribs ,I was tired so I just bought them in my bed till till they were interested in sleeping on their own ( from about age 2 weeks to 18 months in my bed)

I am by far a nice mom. I just want to understand what am I missing, what is there to learn?

amother

Opal

Sat, Jan 15 2022, 11:09 pm

How to do it safely. Make sure your mattress is firm enough. Toss all extra pillows and blankets. You need to make sure your awareness is fully there (other than naturally asleep)

stillnewlywed

Sat, Jan 15 2022, 11:09 pm

How to do it safely without putting your baby at risk for SIDS

amother

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 5:33 am

amother [ Opal ] wrote:

How to do it safely. Make sure your mattress is firm enough. Toss all extra pillows and blankets. You need to make sure your awareness is fully there (other than naturally asleep)

Interesting
People actually get a new mattress!? Mattresses are extremely expensive

I guess I'm such a light sleeper , these things didn't even occur to me

amother

Opal

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 5:39 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Interesting
People actually get a new mattress!? Mattresses are extremely expensive

I guess I'm such a light sleeper , these things didn't even occur to me

We have a pretty firm mattress to start with, but not everyone does.

I don't have wine as long as a cosleep- even Kiddush

And I toss all my extra pillows on the floor- one for my head and a blanket only on my legs

If you're cosleeping, please follow these rules. No matter hour light a sleeper you think you are- suffocation CV"s is silent

amother

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 7:23 am

amother [ Opal ] wrote:

I only heard there are actually rules now!!
4 kids later...
My baby is 5 months old ,is it too late?

amother

Opal

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 7:28 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I only heard there are actually rules now!!
4 kids later...
My baby is 5 months old ,is it too late?

Better late then never

amother

Stonewash

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 7:44 am

I also put a bed rail on the side of my bed

amother

Wheat

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 8:12 am

OP are you feigning dumb? Did you never hear or read that cosleeping can be dangerous? Not Suffocating your baby never occurred to you? Not smothering her or rolling on top of her or having her roll off the bed?

amother

Pumpkin

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 9:59 am

amother [ Wheat ] wrote:

There’s a nicer way to make a point. This isn’t it.

amother

Lightyellow

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 10:01 am

OP talk to your baby's doctor. This is the sort of thing he/she should have already discussed with you at previous check ups.

SG18

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 12:14 pm

I agree with this. There's a lot that is natural, that just makes sense.
For me, I felt a lot of guilt while cosleeping, and reading research papers on the benefits assuaged my guilt, and reassured me that this is natural, normal, and can be better for mom and baby.

amother

Yarrow

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 2:08 pm

amother [ Wheat ] wrote:

I'm also super confused by this OP...

amother

Hydrangea

Sun, Jan 16 2022, 2:12 pm

It's not so confusing. There is plenty of research out there that shows that it's actually safer than a lot of other options, and unless you are drunk or a smoker, you will be just fine. There is also the idea that a breastfeeding mother will naturally be aware of her infant in her sleep. It's really not rocket science, I'm with you op. Don't freak out from anonymous online posters. (Ironically yes I'm also anonymous here but just because I don't care for the backlash that I'll probably get)

Shmoozinator

Wed, Feb 02 2022, 4:42 pm

The safe sleep seven are very important.
(To the tune of row row row your boat)
No smoke, sober mom
Baby at the bre@st
Healthy baby on his back
Keep him lightly dressed
Not too soft a bed
Mind the cords and gaps
Keep the covers off his head for your nights and naps

There are plenty of people out there who do co-sleep and don't do it safely.
It's important that the bed is firm, and the baby won't roll into the dip your body makes in the mattress when it's too soft. Sober doesn't just mean you're not an alcoholic, it means no drinking enough close to bedtime to effect your awareness and sleepiness. It also means not being on a medication that effects this either. Being aware of extra blankets or pillows that could end up on baby's head, chas v'Shalom, and making sure your own blanket doesn't go over their head or face. It's being sure that your baby is a healthy baby, as if there are medical concerns, they could chas v'Shalom raise the likelihood of SIDS. It's making sure there are no gaps between mattress and bed that baby could get stuck in, or no edge they could easily go over.
It's definitely more than just plopping the baby next to you.
Hatzlacha to everyone who attempts co-sleeping. It definitely comes with challenges of it's own, but is worth it for some of us.

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