Home
Log in / Sign Up
    Private Messages   Advanced Search   Rules   New User Guide   FAQ   Advertise   Contact Us  
Forum -> Parenting our children
Irish twins - best tips please!
Previous  1  2



Post new topic   Reply to topic View latest: 24h 48h 72h

amother
Thistle


 

Post Mon, May 09 2022, 12:11 pm
amother [ Holly ] wrote:
If you can work it out, have your husband do a feeding in middle of the night. This way you can have a longer stretch of sleep to be able to function properly the next day.
The beginning will be hard, but once your newborn gets a little older, you can put them on similar schedules.
I received this tip many years ago and still follow to this day. Let the baby cry for a bit while in middle of caring for an older one. The baby won't remember the extra bit of time he waited, but the older one will remember that you left him hanging to run to the baby.


The younger the child, the more it needs the mother's attention and love. The older child might remember but the younger one will have it in his subcounscious. A newborn is vulnerable and a older child is able to calm himself down which is a skill you only acquire at around 4-6months.

That being said, 11 months is still tiny and needs loads of love.
Back to top

torquoise




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 09 2022, 12:20 pm
It's ok for either of them to cry for a minute or two while you finish what you're doing. You will have 2 little human beings who need you a lot; you can't split yourself into 2 people. Just do your best. If you need to be doing one thing, and can't do another thing at the same time, it's ok. No one will die from crying in their crib for 3 minutes, or waiting for a few minutes for a diaper change. Pat yourself on the back for raising 2 human beings, even on the hard days!
Back to top

Hashem_Yaazor




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 09 2022, 1:05 pm
It's also ok for you to cry a little 😉
Back to top

English3




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 09 2022, 4:20 pm
A small tip is to be proactive. If you know the baby is due for a feed in a half an hour, try to find a safe space for your older baby to play in. if eleven months baby is due for food whilst your nursing, prepare finger foods such as shredded chicken, bread, fruits and veg. depending on how capable the baby is and watch your older baby whilst nursing younger one. New borns are not supposed to be up more than 45 min in a stretch so hopefully it should work out. try to put your older baby to nap at least once a day together with newborn.

Look out for the calm and peaceful times and you will be surprised it happens often.
Back to top

amother
OP


 

Post Mon, May 09 2022, 8:46 pm
Thank you all so much for the tips! I'm not responding to each one individually, and will almost definitely be too overwhelmed to report back in the next few months Wink but I am noting all of them.
Back to top
Page 2 of 2 Previous  1  2 Recent Topics




Post new topic   Reply to topic    Forum -> Parenting our children

Related Topics Replies Last Post
Home every Shabbos. Practical tips please? How does it work?
by amother
11 Today at 8:03 pm View last post
Pesach out-of-town tips
by amother
7 Yesterday at 8:26 pm View last post
Tips for first time drinking on purim
by amother
22 Fri, Mar 22 2024, 3:11 pm View last post
HS teachers and tips ?
by amother
4 Fri, Mar 22 2024, 11:54 am View last post
Share your kitchen tips and hacks
by top mom
49 Wed, Mar 06 2024, 6:53 am View last post