12 yr old Son won't go swimming this year..

bluebird

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 6:47 pm

singleagain wrote:

I might get bashed for this... But if he will feel better with hairless legs... You can teach him to remove it. That way at least he will get back in the pool and then you can work on accepting the fact that leg hair grows.

If boys notice that he has hair and tease him for it they are absolutely going to notice that hair is gone and bully him even more.

amother

Pansy

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:36 pm

singleagain wrote:

We tell our girls to shave... Why is this different?

Also it doesn't grow back thicker.. biologically the hair grows from the root. Cutting the top has no affect on your genetic hair growth rate.

If you don't see a difference between a girl and boy shaving then I'll assume that in some circles there is no difference..?

I said it grows back quicker. I did not say thicker.

singleagain

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:37 pm

amother [ Pansy ] wrote:

If you don't see a difference between a girl and boy shaving then I'll assume that in some circles there is no difference..?

I said it grows back quicker. I did not say thicker.

It's called patriarchy.

And no. Thickness is also genetic by the root. And not affected by shaving.

amother

PlumPink

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 9:34 pm

Our bodies changing can be really awkward and uncomfortable. Some kids are fine and some take a while to get used to it.

My son is celebrating every new hair on his cheek, but my friend told me her son is so self conscious about his emerging facial hair.

Let him be, it’ll work out. So he might not swim as much this summer… I wouldn’t make a big deal of it.

With regard to removing it, if kids are making fun of him for having hairy legs, I would think they would make just as much fun - if not more - if they found out he shaved it. (Unless that’s something common in your circles)

amother

Pansy

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 10:11 pm

amother [ PlumPink ] wrote:

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Sewsew_mom

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 10:50 pm

amother [ PlumPink ] wrote:

Not sure I came across anywhere saying he would remove his leg hair.. I don't think that's an option. The tiro option when swimming was an option. But removing his armpit hair until he feels comfortable keeping it isn't really in sight if anyone.
I would not want him to remove any hair. He's perfect the way he is. But he needs to wake up and go out every day. So until he's confident with himself he needs to know his options.
I gave him a good book on puberty I'm hoping that will instill more detailed information about being a man.
BTW.. His facial hair doesn't bother him at all.. It's his underarm hair weirdly which noine ever sees..