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mother to be




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Aug 01 2022, 12:48 pm
My baby is extremely attached to me, and wouldn't let anyone hold her (when Im not around), care for her, or babysit her. Not even my mother, sister, or mil.
Any ideas on how to help her (and me!) be more comfortable with other ppl?
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mother to be




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Aug 02 2022, 10:53 am
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amother
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Post Tue, Aug 02 2022, 10:54 am
How old is she?

It’s probably just a stage she’ll outgrow soon.
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mother to be




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Aug 02 2022, 9:25 pm
shes 9 months, same since 4-5 months
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Maryann




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Aug 02 2022, 9:53 pm
Following
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amother
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Post Tue, Aug 02 2022, 9:58 pm
I find that however they are as a baby is how they will be when they are older. it comes out in different ways but its a personality
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mother to be




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 10:41 am
I find that however they are as a baby is how they will be when they are older. it comes out in different ways but its a personality

So what does that tell me? What do I do now so I can leave her when I have to go anywhere?
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BrisketBoss




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 11:42 am
If you have to go then just go. A baby does not have the power to 'let' or 'not let.' I do believe in consent at all ages, but in this situation the best the caregivers can do is to speak empathetically to the baby about the situation while taking care of her anyway.
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amother
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Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 11:53 am
Did you have any trauma or specific anxiety during your pregnancy
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amother
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Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 12:37 pm
My baby was the same way from about 3 months. As she got older she got used to others that are always around (dh, siblings, my mom...)
She's a year now and does have stranger anxiety and will cry if I walk out of the room but is consolable if 1 of the above mentioned people are there.
At this point her behavior is age appropriate.
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mother to be




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 2:37 pm
BrisketBoss wrote:
If you have to go then just go. A baby does not have the power to 'let' or 'not let.' I do believe in consent at all ages, but in this situation the best the caregivers can do is to speak empathetically to the baby about the situation while taking care of her anyway.


You're right. She doesnt have the power, and when I have to, I leave her. But I know that shes crying the entire time.
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mother to be




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 2:38 pm
amother [ Chicory ] wrote:
Did you have any trauma or specific anxiety during your pregnancy


yes I did. how does that effect her now?
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Maryann




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 2:40 pm
mother to be wrote:
yes I did. how does that effect her now?


Pm me if you're comfortable
If not I'll say it Breifly here
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Goldie613




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 2:45 pm
mother to be wrote:
My baby is extremely attached to me, and wouldn't let anyone hold her (when Im not around), care for her, or babysit her. Not even my mother, sister, or mil.
Any ideas on how to help her (and me!) be more comfortable with other ppl?


So, does this mean she will let some people hold her when you are around? If so, maybe start from there and build out. If, for example, she is ok with your sister holding her with you in the room, try to leave the room for a quick minute, then next time 5 minutes, 10 minutes, etc, so that little by little she gets used to a few people who are in her life already taking care of her even if you aren't there.
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mother to be




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 3:25 pm
Goldie613 wrote:
So, does this mean she will let some people hold her when you are around? If so, maybe start from there and build out. If, for example, she is ok with your sister holding her with you in the room, try to leave the room for a quick minute, then next time 5 minutes, 10 minutes, etc, so that little by little she gets used to a few people who are in her life already taking care of her even if you aren't there.


yes she does. this is a good idea! I'll try it. Thanks!!
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amother
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Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 5:10 pm
Maryann wrote:
Pm me if you're comfortable
If not I'll say it Breifly here


I have a similar situation, would you mind posting here?
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amother
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Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 6:50 pm
Maryann wrote:
Pm me if you're comfortable
If not I'll say it Breifly here


Please state your credentials, too.
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Maryann




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Aug 03 2022, 6:58 pm
amother [ Firethorn ] wrote:
Please state your credentials, too.


What do you mean by this
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amother
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Post Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:40 am
My 9 month old is the same way. He’s gotten worse recently. I’m not very worried about it. I assume he will grow out of it.
Like someone else suggested I let others hold him while I’m in the room and he can sometimes tolerate that for a bit. I do occasionally leave him with my mother while I go to appointments and I’m just hoping over time he will realize that I come back eventually…

One of my other kids was like this also and she looooooves when I drop her off at my parents house now.
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