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amother
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 9:43 pm
What's ur opinion?
Does it take away from the holiness of the day?
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amother
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 9:46 pm
My husband doesn't love having guests RH but to me guests make Yom tov.
We compromise with the type of guests we have and my husband doesn t do the socializing, I do. Sometimes he even says tehillim at the table.
That's how it works for us.
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Ema of 5
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 9:48 pm
amother OP wrote: | What's ur opinion?
Does it take away from the holiness of the day? |
We always have guests, it enhances our meal.
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amother
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 9:50 pm
We only have dinner company, as I feel lunch keeps me from shul
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amother
Hosta
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 9:51 pm
I find it too hard to
Coordinate what time to eat since different shuls finish different times.
If my friends and I all
Davened at the same
Shul I’d consider hosting
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amother
Moccasin
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 9:54 pm
I find guests on RH does not work well.
Obviously if it’s a true need, than yes.
If it’s just for fun, no
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Thisisnotmyreal
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 9:58 pm
I invite but warn I don't talk.
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Ema of 5
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:00 pm
amother Gold wrote: | We only have dinner company, as I feel lunch keeps me from shul |
Having lunch guests keeps you from shul? Granted I don’t go to shul, but can you explain this? I don’t understand.
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amother
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:02 pm
What do you mean by that?
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amother
Hosta
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:02 pm
Ema of 4 wrote: | Having lunch guests keeps you from shul? Granted I don’t go to shul, but can you explain this? I don’t understand. |
I assume she meant prepping for the lunch
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amother
Butterscotch
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:04 pm
Ema of 4 wrote: | Having lunch guests keeps you from shul? Granted I don’t go to shul, but can you explain this? I don’t understand. |
You don’t go even on RH?
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PinkFridge
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:09 pm
Well, she is an eema of 4, ka"h.
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Thisisnotmyreal
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:12 pm
Words have creative power and so ideally I would like the only words I say to be machzor and tehillim. I do communicate with the people around me as needed but I don't converse and tell those I'm hosting that I won't. If other people talk, that's fine. I'm not going to participate.
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amother
Hosta
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:17 pm
Thisisnotmyreal wrote: | Words have creative power and so ideally I would like the only words I say to be machzor and tehillim. I do communicate with the people around me as needed but I don't converse and tell those I'm hosting that I won't. If other people talk, that's fine. I'm not going to participate. |
Ooc what do guests say when you tell
Them that! Do they still come Or hold off another time till you can speak?
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Thisisnotmyreal
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:21 pm
amother Hosta wrote: | Ooc what do guests say when you tell
Them that! Do they still come Or hold off another time till you can speak? |
Depends on the person. Most don't turn down. It's quieter and often guests are saying tehillim at the meal. But some meals do turn lively, and I'm not at all bothered by that.
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amother
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:35 pm
We only host sleepover family, not just neighborhood friends to be social.
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mfb
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:44 pm
I’ve never heard something like that?
Where does this come from?
What I’ve learned is that on rosh hashonah we crown Hashem. So there are times to be serious but also times to be b’simcha!
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someoneoutthere
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 10:49 pm
mfb wrote: | I’ve never heard something like that?
Where does this come from?
What I’ve learned is that on rosh hashonah we crown Hashem. So there are times to be serious but also times to be b’simcha! |
There is a Chassidic custom, based on kabbala, not to talk on the first night of Rosh Hashana. This is related to the sefira of Malchus and the way it interacts with our world. Once we have blown shofar the first day and crowned Hashem as our King this element is no longer relevant but some are careful not to speak about uneccesary matters and utilize free moments to say tehillim all yomtov.
Specifically, amongst Chabad chassidim this practice of not talking can be found
(Not everyone keeps this practice, but its discussed in depth by the Rebbeim of Chabad)
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amother
Tanzanite
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 11:00 pm
Breslov doesn't talk either.... Good thing dh is away rh lol.
(Other years, this year we don't know)
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amother
Stoneblue
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Sun, Sep 04 2022, 11:06 pm
Of course we have guests. A) it's not Yom tov (or shabbos) without guests and B) people need meals. But it doesn't interfere with shul cause only ever host nights (shabbos included).
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