Candles for yom kipper

amother

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 2:33 pm

Aside from the family, how many Yahtzeit candles do u light. I forgot is there one for the ppl of t he house as well as a Yahtzeit candle for a parent who passed away?

ra_mom

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 2:47 pm

Generally one yartzeit candle.
If one says yizkar, they light more.

amother

Fern

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 3:15 pm

One at home, but Dh usually lights another yartzeit candle in shul.

amother

Hyacinth

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 3:37 pm

ra_mom wrote:

Generally one yartzeit candle.
If one says yizkar, they light more.

People light yartzeit candles even if their relatives are alive?

ra_mom

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 3:41 pm

amother Hyacinth wrote:

People light yartzeit candles even if their relatives are alive?

The first yartzeit candle is for Y"K, irregardless of relatives.

amother

Fern

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 3:54 pm

ra_mom wrote:

The first yartzeit candle is for Y"K, irregardless of relatives.

Yes, it's called a lebedige licht and we light the havdala candle motze YK from this candle.

amother

Ballota

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 3:58 pm

amother Fern wrote:

Yes, it's called a lebedige licht and we light the havdala candle motze YK from this candle.

By us, we light a yahrzheit candle for Yom Kippur in order to have the flame after. But if you're lighting anyway for a relative, you don't need another one.

amother

Hyacinth

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 4:38 pm

ra_mom wrote:

The first yartzeit candle is for Y"K, irregardless of relatives.

Also if there are no men in the house?

amother

Saddlebrown

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 4:44 pm

amother Ballota wrote:

By us, we light a yahrzheit candle for Yom Kippur in order to have the flame after. But if you're lighting anyway for a relative, you don't need another one.

Some people don’t use the yartzeit candle for havdala and use another candle for it.

Ema of 5

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 4:46 pm

amother Ballota wrote:

By us, we light a yahrzheit candle for Yom Kippur in order to have the flame after. But if you're lighting anyway for a relative, you don't need another one.

I was told I shouldn’t use my yartzheit candle for anything else, so there will be one for my father, a”h, one for Yom Kippur, and one per person as needed for anyone staying here who needs.
Also, the yartzheit candle only has one wick, I believe you need two for havdala.

ra_mom

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 4:51 pm

amother Hyacinth wrote:

Also if there are no men in the house?

Correct.
We don't use the Y"K yartzeit candle for anything else. Not for havdallah that some people mention here.

amother

Razzmatazz

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 5:16 pm

You light yartzeit for anyone who needs it (ie parents passed away). So my parents light 4 because none of my grandparents are alive.

You light 1 so you can light the havdala candle from it (you need a "rested" flame).

There are also those who light 1 per married man staying there. Some men do this one in shul I believe.

BH no yizkor for us but we will have 2 candles lit here for #1 and #2.

amother

Stoneblue

Tue, Oct 04 2022, 5:27 pm

We light 1 for DH’s Father and 1 for
Rabbi Akiva

amother

Amaranthus

Wed, Oct 05 2022, 7:47 pm

We light one for Yom Kippur,
One for neshomos

But you're supposed to keep one in the bedroom I think, to remind you not to have relations Yom Kippur. Am I right?
We don't anymore because the flickering of the flame disturbed us a lot. We just remember not to dtd that night, it's not that hard to remember Smile

And we use one for havdala. I put 2 matches inside to light, hold them together so it's 2 wicks.

amother

Saddlebrown

Wed, Oct 05 2022, 8:06 pm

In the end our candle for havdala died out and we had no other flame to use for havdala. Tried neighbors and nada. So we used the yizkor light. Was that ok?

amother

Oxfordblue

Wed, Oct 05 2022, 8:56 pm

amother Fern wrote:

One at home, but Dh usually lights another yartzeit candle in shul.

on Erev Yom Kippur by candle lighting, there is a minhag of lighting a נשמה לעכט and a געזונט לעכט. The custom by some is to take the געזונט לעכט to shul or leave in the bedroom.
You light the havdala lecht from the burning Wick of the yahrzeit lecht.

Ema of 5

Wed, Oct 05 2022, 8:58 pm

amother Amaranthus wrote:

And we use one for havdala. I put 2 matches inside to light, hold them together so it's 2 wicks.

I never heard this….

amother

Oxfordblue

Wed, Oct 05 2022, 9:01 pm

Ema of 4 wrote:

I never heard this….

It has nothing to do with not dtd.

Ema of 5

Wed, Oct 05 2022, 9:02 pm

amother Oxfordblue wrote:

It has nothing to do with not dtd.

Either way, I never heard of leaving/having a candle in the bedroom.

amother

Razzmatazz

Wed, Oct 05 2022, 10:56 pm

Why is there a candle for married men? Minhag is to have one but why only married men?