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amother
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Tue, Nov 29 2022, 7:42 pm
If a shadchan calls or texts you if your son or daughter is busy what do you answer?
Would you say the truth if you just gave a yes to a girl or boy and he/ she starting something? Or do you just play along?
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amother
Amaryllis
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Tue, Nov 29 2022, 7:49 pm
amother OP wrote: | If a shadchan calls or texts you if your son or daughter is busy what do you answer?
Would you say the truth if you just gave a yes to a girl or boy and he/ she starting something? Or do you just play along? |
What's wrong with answering the truth?
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amother
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Tue, Nov 29 2022, 8:19 pm
My husband says its an ayin harah
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amother
Razzmatazz
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Tue, Nov 29 2022, 8:20 pm
I would be vague I would say we can look into it and I'll let you know his/ her availability if we are interested.
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effess
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Tue, Nov 29 2022, 8:21 pm
You can say we’re looking into someone now, feel free to call in a few weeks and we can revisit.
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amother
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Tue, Nov 29 2022, 8:26 pm
effess wrote: | You can say we’re looking into someone now, feel free to call in a few weeks and we can revisit. |
A boy always has resumes to look into
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agreer
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Tue, Nov 29 2022, 9:55 pm
amother OP wrote: | A boy always has resumes to look into |
It's still enough to say that.
You don't have to say more if you aren't comfortable with saying that he's busy.
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salt
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Tue, Nov 29 2022, 10:03 pm
Would just say "We just got another suggestion that we're looking into, but I'd be happy to hear a little more, and I'll get back to you if it becomes relevant."
(But I wouldn't tell the son/daughter who is dating that they have another offer waiting if this one doesn't work out. They make take the dates less seriously as they know there's always someone else who could be better.)
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amother
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Wed, Nov 30 2022, 5:35 am
Thank you! Just wondering how many of you out there would just day that he or she is busy?
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amother
Fern
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Wed, Nov 30 2022, 5:44 am
My family member is in her 30s and single. Many times people give suggestions directly to her. If she’s busy, she says so. I think that’s pretty common.
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Chayalle
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Wed, Nov 30 2022, 7:06 am
amother OP wrote: | My husband says its an ayin harah |
I don't understand this at all....how is it an Ayin Harah?
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