Do I need to put postage on return cards?

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rachelli18

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 7:31 pm

Wondering what proper etiquette is.
I'm sending out print invitations for my son's bar mitzvah.
Do I need to put postage on return cards?
I feel like lately, I stamp my own return cards when I send back to others' simchos. (Maybe too many people don't return then, so they don't bother?)
I don't want to be cheap and would gladly stamp them.

amother

Mayflower

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 7:32 pm

Yes

ra_mom

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 7:36 pm

Don't expect responses if you don't put postage on the return cards. People mean to send the cards back, but if they're waiting to find a stamp, it doesn't end up happening in time.

rachelli18

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 7:39 pm

Thanks! Personally I always have stamps around and try to send things back quickly, but maybe that's not as usual these days, with less and less things going out by regular mail.

amother

Obsidian

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 7:48 pm

YES!!
I inadvertantly forgot to do this and had a few people tell me they were delayed since they need to go out and get stamps.
I think it is also proper etiquette

flowerpower

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 7:52 pm

How about having them rsvp via email? It’s pretty common these days.

rachelli18

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 8:07 pm

Thanks that would be a great idea!

amother

Skyblue

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 8:39 pm

flowerpower wrote:

How about having them rsvp via email? It’s pretty common these days.

I just want to say that more experienced friends advised us against doing an email RSVP - they mentioned that some people will send checks even if they RSVP that they will not attend. If it's an email response they may not bother with it.

amother

Periwinkle

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 8:55 pm

rachelli18 wrote:

Absolutely! I’ve never seen a return envelope not have the postage. No one does that.

amother

Sand

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 8:59 pm

It really depends on where you live.
In my community, it is customary to send the rsvp card with every nvitation, and most of the invitees will only attend the chuppa or dance but will not sit down to the meal. I see that many do not send the envelope with the stamp anymore. Some will only stamp those addressed to the people most likely to send them back, mainly family and close friends.
If you only send the rsvp cards to a limited amount of guests which you expect will attend the meal you should stamp them.

amother

Mustard

Thu, Feb 02 2023, 9:06 pm

If you don't you won't get them back (you might not anyways...)

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