Best baby gift you got from friend or sister

amother

Forsythia

Mon, May 22 2023, 9:44 pm

I would never inflict pain on a baby for cosmetic purposes "so people shouldn't think she's a boy". How cruel is that? They can choose to get earrings or not when they're old enough, and then the pain is their tradeoff to make.

amother

Carnation

Mon, May 22 2023, 10:18 pm

amother Forsythia wrote:

Earrings on a newborn isn't supposed to be painful, later on it hurts more.

amother

Cinnamon

Mon, May 22 2023, 10:22 pm

amother Carnation wrote:

Earrings on a newborn isn't supposed to be painful, later on it hurts more.

How would you know?

amf

Mon, May 22 2023, 10:22 pm

amother Carnation wrote:

Earrings on a newborn isn't supposed to be painful, later on it hurts more.

I don't understand this. It's like the people who say a baby doesn't feel pain during a late-term abortion. Does the baby not have nerve endings and therefore can't feel the piercing? The only thing that might be different is that they aren't expecting any pain, and that fear can amplify the perceived pain in older kids, especially for the second ear. But the baby absolutely feels pain.

Now, is the pain significant enough that the result is worth it? You're welcome to think what you want. But don't kid yourself that it's pain free.

amother

Amaryllis

Mon, May 22 2023, 10:23 pm

amother Cinnamon wrote:

How would you know?

I got earrings when I was 12. Hurts less than a finger flick

amother

Cinnamon

Mon, May 22 2023, 10:24 pm

amother Amaryllis wrote:

I got earrings when I was 12. Hurts less than a finger flick

I got at 6 and remember it as really painful..
So the younger the more painful?

amother

Kiwi

Tue, May 23 2023, 3:03 am

amother Moccasin wrote:

I never heard of a girl without earrings. I think it looks weird

Strangest post I've read on imamother...
My two youngest daughters don't have earrings yet, ages 5 & 3. Now you heard of a girl without earrings Wink

amother

Oxfordblue

Tue, May 23 2023, 5:24 am

My sister bought me a cosy, comfy, hooded sweater. She has good taste, and I'm bad at shopping for myself.
I used to wear it tons. Then it got a bleach stain on it Sad

I still wear it most Fridays at home in the winter.

DVOM

Tue, May 23 2023, 6:00 am

amother Cinnamon wrote:

How would you know?

I got my daughter's ears pierced at 5 weeks old. She slept through it. Must have been pretty painless, no?

amother

Daylily

Tue, May 23 2023, 6:18 am

Back to the original question:

A sweatshirt dress I could throw over pajamas to run carpool while on maternity leave.
A freezer full of dinners and lunches that my kids actually eat.
A new swing for baby since my old one was recalled.
Coming over on Sunday (with her kids and new toys ) and taking all the kids outside to the backyard for 3 hours with the invitation To either take a nap or join them, up to me.

Gittu

Tue, May 23 2023, 10:17 am

amother Apple wrote:

That’s because people choose to dress their girls in boyish clothing for some strange reason. My beautiful baby girl wears only pink and mayyybe some purple and no one ever thought she was a boy - despite no earrings.

My friend however got earrings for her dd so people shouldn’t think she was a boy. I was like - why not just dress her in headbands and pink???

My daughter always looked like a boy when dressed in neutral colors like red, purple or denim.
It took me a while to realize that she can only be dressed in pink!

amother

Orange

Tue, May 23 2023, 10:55 am

definitely a cultural thing. I think babies with earrings look weird.
I got earrings when I was old enough to ask for them. I was 5.
ill get for my daughter when she asks for them.

why inflict pain for something that looks so tacky?
and I never understood earrings on newborns... their ears grow and ive often seen earrings look lopsided bc of the change in ear size...

op maybe a personalized blanket?