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Nervous about son starting shidduchim



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amother
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Post Tue, May 30 2023, 5:35 pm
Hes my oldest. He's a wonderful boy BH. Good middos, Ehrlich. I can see him treating his wife with love and respect. My own marriage is not awesome. Dh has some unresolved untreated issues which makes our relationship complicated. As much as we love each other. I feel like I don't want to let my son into the big adult world. I'm praying for him to have an easy life, a good wife. I'm rambling.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, how do parents do this? How do I trust? How do I know if there are skeletons in her closet so to speak?
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amother
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Post Tue, May 30 2023, 5:42 pm
I’m more worried that my kids are healthy . Like this they would be able to weed out and feel attracted to a healthy spouse. I’m having a hard time allowing my boys to enter shidduchim before they work through any issues they have . I feel they would be so much better off. But they are not ready, so that makes me feel like they may not be emotionally ready to be emotionally connected to their wives.
I’m not reaching out to shadchanim yet. I’m waiting for them to get more serious about taking responsibility and ownership in their lives. I know it’s my own anxiety and feelings of control that are getting in the way.
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