The Beckman’s - Ami Serial

amother

Brickred

Wed, Jun 07 2023, 12:25 pm

amother Stone wrote:

why hasnt esty called a rav or a therapist by now? its becoming a bit unrealistic

She called a Rav.
It backfired on her.

birdie1

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 12:09 am

amother Papaya wrote:

This story stresses me out so much!! I want to smack all the Beckman's

I'm so mad at the husband. What in the world is wrong with him? I find it hard to believe that they had a good marriage till now.

amother

Ivory

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 12:43 am

amother Papaya wrote:

This story stresses me out so much!! I want to smack all the Beckman's

Sameeee

flowerpower

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 12:52 am

He wants her to sign the forms to take out a second mortgage and she should pay for it using her paycheck from her new job. She doesn’t want to and he is trying to make her feel guilty that she isn’t supportive.

She may be able to go away for 2 days for a business job- she’ll find if it will work out.

amother

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 12:58 am

I hate how Esti always needs to be supportive when the truth is that a husband also needs to support his wife!
The ksuba doesn’t talk only about a roof over her head, it talks about sipukaichi also, fulfillment, intimacy and all her needs not just her financial backing.
Supportive goes both ways!
This story makes it sound like a feminine trait and a wifely duty.

flowerpower

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 1:00 am

amother OP wrote:

Obviously he is totally oblivious to his families needs. He is so focused on “saving his family” that he forgot that his wife and kids come first.

amother

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 1:01 am

amother Papaya wrote:

Congrats to the author who wrote worlds most unlikable character.

Two characters .
Personally I dislike Eli more than Dina.

amother

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 1:04 am

birdie1 wrote:

I'm so mad at the husband. What in the world is wrong with him? I find it hard to believe that they had a good marriage till now.

Agree, they don’t really have much of a marriage at all . Why is she always serving him more and more dinner after he snobs her out, Let him buy falafel.

koalamum

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 10:55 am

emi1812 wrote:

They’ve always pampered and babied her and continue to do so. They all feel bad for her and rush to soothe her every time she starts pouting or has a meltdown. It’s always “Oy nebach, poor Dina she just lost her father!” They all get mad at him for not handing her whatever she’s demanding and jump down his throat and act like he’s a selfish tyrant for informing her that they need to make a budget 🙄

To me it makes no sense that Dina is so rotten to the core. Where is her Jewish nature? Every bas Yisroel has at least some good midos but not Dina.
I’m wondering if Dina went through some kind of secret trauma before Esty married Eli and that is why everyone is giving in to her.

amother

Hawthorn

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 10:58 am

Does not matter
Some people can get locked into distorted views of reality or entitlement or victims mentality
As usual the solution is to set healthy consistent boundaries
While admittedly sometimes hard to do especially initially

giftedmom

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 11:03 am

koalamum wrote:

More likely she’s the golden child who grew into a narcissist. Classic

amother

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 11:12 am

amother Hawthorn wrote:

He’s afraid, put in the middle, and grieving
(Reasons not excuses)

From the look of things they didn’t have a great marriage before either. The current situation just highlights their disconnected connection.

amother

Whitewash

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 11:14 am

I was so relieved to see Esty standing up for herself.

I stand by what I said earlier that Estys doing everything right. The fact that she's not breaking apart is amazing in itself! She's a hero.

And the line about "you don't understand business" made my.blood boil. Everyone knows that the #1 rule in business is not mortgage personal property to put into a business. This is basic, basic, basic.

amother

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 11:15 am

elisheva25 wrote:

This husband sounds like a total idiot !
Like enough is enough

Exactly, total idiot

And not because of the failing business but because he put himself and his wife on two separate teams. He alienated his life partner.

amother

Brickred

Sun, Jun 11 2023, 12:00 pm

I would think she would drop the job if he wants to use it for the mortgage.

She would need to be an idiot to work so her money could go to Dina.