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shalhevet

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 4:46 pm

We recently had a thread in which we discussed how Jewish women have been willing to even have their children killed al kiddush Hashem (for the sanctification of G-d's name)

What do you think is the one most important thing that a Jewish mother should impart to her children?

Crayon210

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 4:49 pm

Only one?!

Motek

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 4:51 pm

For Jewish mothers who could impart only one thing, like in the Holocaust, the one thing was: You are Jewish! Don't forget that!

shalhevet

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 4:56 pm

Crayon210 wrote:

Only one?!

If you had to choose one thing that your children would never forget.

Motek

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 5:03 pm

So for those living under duress, as posted previously, the message is about being Jewish.

For others - I would say the one thing never to forget is "shivisi Hashem l'negdi samid" (I place G-d before me always). G-d is always there, always watching. I am in His presence.

Ruchel

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 6:15 pm

"Learn and follow G-d's commands" maybe?

goldrose

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 6:16 pm

Ruchel wrote:

"Learn and follow G-d's commands" maybe?

that is not one thing, that is 613 things.

Ruchel

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 6:21 pm

goldrose wrote:

Ruchel wrote:

"Learn and follow G-d's commands" maybe?

that is not one thing, that is 613 things.

It's only one thing if I count them as a whole (G-d's commands) LOL

happymom

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 6:28 pm

Hashgacha protis, hashem runs every detail in the world

gryp

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 6:48 pm

Thank you for starting this thread, I really wanted to know the same thing.

My oldest is 10 days away from turning 3, and when he was born my mashpia told me: "the first three years matter the most in Chinuch. whatever you teach him in these three years will stay with him forever."

So I'm 10 days away, and facing the date with trepidation.

What should I cram in before its too late?

I think so far "Shivisi Hashem Lnegdi Samid" is the most important.

Flowerchild

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 9:13 pm

the fathers teach their children the practical things, I would teach the beauty/commitment to hashem

Motek

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 9:34 pm

Lillyofthevalley wrote:

the fathers teach their children the practical things

So maybe the answer to the same question asked to fathers would be, "Torah tziva lanu Moshe morasha kehillas Yaakov," because this is the first thing a father must teach his son.

roza

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 9:46 pm

Ivdu Es Hashem Besimcha! Serving Hashem with Joy and Passion!

Motek

Sun, Jul 02 2006, 9:57 pm

What?!

You're all kidding!

You mean ...

Nobody is mentioning mamosh THE most important thing????

Haven't you all read Dr. Twerski's books?

Don't you know that THE most important thing is SELF-ESTEEM?

(yes, sarcasm)

goldrose

Mon, Jul 03 2006, 9:20 am

motek, responding to your sarcasm -

self esteem is not an idea/concept that you teach, it is a feeling you instill....

nechamashifra

Mon, Jul 03 2006, 9:44 am

Be nice to others. Share your toys.

shopaholic

Mon, Jul 03 2006, 9:54 am

Be polite, respect your elders.

Mitzvahmom

Mon, Jul 03 2006, 10:04 am

eat healthy?

too many things to choose from

momomom

Mon, Jul 03 2006, 10:14 am

I don't think this could be accomplished in 10 days, however, I think Middos is the most important thing. In todays world the only thing that can really make our children grow up to be good people is by teachingg them good middos with us as their role models. They won't want to do anything really wrong if they know that it doesn't befit them. Torah is very important, and it definitely is high up on the list, but you need the middos for the Torah to stay! What else will keep our kids off the streets and getting into trouble besides for the message "it doesn't befit me" "I'm higher than that" and someone that has their character traits in place?

shalhevet

Mon, Jul 03 2006, 10:20 am

momomom wrote:

derech eretz kadma latorah

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