We are sefardic nuetral chasidish living in a mixed community. My kids r well off in school but lately I've been questioning y we r pretending to b something we are not I feel like I don't fit in and ppl judge us diff every time we meet someone who knows our language they immediately ask us y we r chasidish. Now my question is is it possible to change our lifestyle and get used to living a new way even though we r sefardic but grew up chasidish and kinda used to this way of living and we don't have a rav to confide in. How does one find a rav?