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Debbie

Sun, Nov 05 2017, 11:32 pm

B'ezrat Hashem my daughter is getting married tomorrow.
Please could someone let me know the Brocha that the father generally gives his daughter before she goes to the chuppah; is it a particular text, or just whatever he choses?
Many thanks.

Ruchel

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 1:21 am

I have never seen this. And I got to various kinds of weddings as a shadchan.

amother

Mustard

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 1:56 am

Mazeltov!

IIRC, its the brocha he gives on Friday night? "May you be like...."? I'm NOT sure though so I hope someone else chimes in here....

Debbie

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 2:25 am

Ruchel wrote:

I have never seen this. And I got to various kinds of weddings as a shadchan.

It's generally done straight after the bedecken.

Debbie

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 2:27 am

amother wrote:

Mazeltov!

IIRC, its the brocha he gives on Friday night? "May you be like...."? I'm NOT sure though so I hope someone else chimes in here....

Thank you.
I think we will stick to that one, and maybe add a few extra words.

Ruchel

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 2:32 am

Debbie wrote:

It's generally done straight after the bedecken.

Ok. I didn't have one, and didn't see one that I remember.

Iymnok

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 4:47 am

I think my father gave me the erev Yom Kippur brocha. Otherwise he wouldn't have had a siddur handy.

Debbie

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 4:50 am

Iymnok wrote:

I think my father gave me the erev Yom Kippur brocha. Otherwise he wouldn't have had a siddur handy.

I've heard that some father's give that Brocha, but I wasn't sure what the options are.

Thank you

amother

Jetblack

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 6:09 am

In my recollection from my wedding my brother--who was acting in place of my father it was something different. But I don't remember all of the words.

Debbie

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 6:41 am

amother wrote:

In my recollection from my wedding my brother--who was acting in place of my father it was something different. But I don't remember all of the words.

There seem to be varying opinions, I just wondered which is the one generally used.
I think my husband wants to use the Leil Shabbos one, and a few of his own words for Mazel Brocha, etc..

Chayalle

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 6:45 am

Mazal Tov OP!

In addition to the above (Friday Night, Erev Yom Kippur, etc..) I've heard some say the Pasuk that Lavan said to Rivka Imeinu when she was leaving with Eliezer to marry Yitzchak. "Achosi At Tehi L'alfei R'vava, V'yirash Zaracheh es Shaar Aivav."

Debbie

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 6:48 am

Chayalle wrote:

Thank you so much.

amother

Jetblack

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 8:29 am

Chayalle wrote:

Yes! This! I remember at first being surprised b/c it starts with "Achosi" and my brother was saying it.

leah233

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 8:56 am

Mazal Tov OP!

It is achosanu not achosi

אֲחֹתֵ֕נוּ אַ֥תּ

הֲיִ֖י לְאַלְפֵ֣י רְבָבָ֑ה וְיִירַ֣שׁ זַרְעֵ֔ךְ אֵ֖ת שַׁ֥עַר שֽׂנְאָֽיו

Debbie

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 8:59 am

leah233 wrote:

Thank you.

PinkFridge

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 9:19 am

Chayalle wrote:

This week Shira Smiles talks about this bracha. It should be available later in the week on yutorah or torahanytime.

Mazel tov!

Debbie

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 9:49 am

Thank you Pink Fridge

STMommy

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 11:12 am

Mazal Tov!

Can the father also say Shehechiyanu?

doctorima

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 11:36 am

Nope, happy as he surely is, there are halachic guidelines about when we make a shehechiyanu, and the wedding of a child is not one of them. He could buy a new suit for the occasion and make a shehechiyanu on that, and have in mind that it's also going on the wedding.

iyar

Mon, Nov 06 2017, 2:31 pm

Interesting I also heard of saying the passuk Lavan said to Rivka Imeinu, but only the first half ending at "revava" without the rest of the words. I defer to the other posters, they sound like they know what they're talking about.
I just wanted to say,
MAZEL TOV!
May you and your dh enjoy every minute of the simcha, and many more in the future!

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