S/O would you let your child marry into anti vax home?

amother

Burgundy

Mon, Aug 27 2018, 9:05 pm

See poll.
If you knew before going into a shidduch or stamp your approval on a potential date that the family doesn't believe in vaccinations , would that impact your interest in the shidduch and away your decision either way?

amother

Pumpkin

Mon, Aug 27 2018, 9:21 pm

Other.
I vax and I would have absolutely no problem with a non-vax family as mechutanim. I would, however, ask for details of why not, and what other natural measures they take, just because I'm nosy.

amother

Slategray

Mon, Aug 27 2018, 9:24 pm

No reason to care. Each to their own...as an aside I have a cousin who is in the hospital as we speak from a vaccination "side effect". Vaccinating is not fool proof either. Just because u may or may not vaccinate shouldn't make any difference to others.

SuperWify

Mon, Aug 27 2018, 9:31 pm

I think this question is super important I would put it right after asking if they serve dinner on plastic or china (obviously if they call it “supper” they are so not our type..) and before asking which three year old Morah taught potential future child in law.

amother

Turquoise

Mon, Aug 27 2018, 9:34 pm

Just by the way, my mother didn't vaccinate but I don't agree with her and vaccinated my kids (and myself when I got older) so its not a foolproof criteria

essie14

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 12:43 am

amother wrote:

Just by the way, my mother didn't vaccinate but I don't agree with her and vaccinated my kids (and myself when I got older) so its not a foolproof criteria

Exactly. DH and I discussed vaccinating while we were dating. It really didn’t matter what his family did. I only cared about what his position is.

amother

Black

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 3:13 am

Yes, absolutely. Vaccines are full of horrible ingredients. Aside from that a sibling of mine became very ill from vaccine side effects, so I've seen first hand the damage vaccines do. I would NOT approve of my children marrying people who want to vaccinate. No way would that toxic stuff be put into my grandchildren.

salt

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 3:21 am

You're missing a third option.

I do vaccinate my children, but it would never occur to me to ask such a question to potential mechutanim.

amother

Red

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 3:49 am

I disapprove of people who don't vaccinate, but it is not important enough that I would keep my child away from bashert.

Of course I'm modern, so there isn't a question of me "letting" a child marry anyone, at most I would be encouraging or discouraging a relationship.

amother

Seafoam

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 7:53 am

My sis in law won’t vaccinate the kids and they are therefore limited in their choice of school. Bh everyone is healthy and should iyh always be but it’s def something we have in mind when there is a newborn around....

FranticFrummie

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 7:55 am

Nope, nope, riding the nope train to Nopeville.

Delayed schedule is fine, but vaccinations MUST happen.

mommy3b2c

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 7:58 am

It’s not something I would ask, and I wouldn’t stop my sons from marrying a girl that they like, but it’s doubtful that it would happen just because the type of personality that doesn’t vaccinate would not be the type of personality that any of my kids would be interested in.
Also, I have never met anyone who doesn’t vax. This anti vaxing is a phenomenon I only found on this site.

Simple1

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 9:12 am

SuperWify wrote:

I don't think the vax issue is comparable to inquiring about China vs plastic. One is a potential health threat, the other is superficial.

Still, it's not something that I thought to ask and I'm not sure it would stop me from considering a really good shidduch. But I can see for someone who has all the cards stacked in their favor, yichus etc, that it could be a deal breaker.

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Redbird

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 9:12 am

I vaccinate on a delayed schedule I would let my kids marry either way. The poll options just confirms that there is a misconception that everyone is either an extreme "anti vaxxer" or "pro vaxxer."

amother

cornflower

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 9:23 am

You're missing many in between options!

I don't vaccinate. I'm not so 100% anti-vax, but I have too many concerns and questions to feel comfortable going ahead and doing it. When in doubt do without is my motto.

But I have nothing against people one way or another. As long as someone is overall a healthy responsible person, I assume they will be a healthy responsible parent and take care of their children as THEY see fit whether that includes vaccines or not, organic food or not, antibiotic use or not, alternative doctors or allopathic ones, whatever...

Chayalle

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 9:23 am

It's not a question I ask when I call for info on boys, but I can't imagine that my girls would marry a boy from an anti-vax family. We would just not be the same type.

amother

cornflower

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 9:24 am

cnc wrote:

No I wouldn’t because in my circles, not vaccinating comes along with a bunch of other mishigassen.

Great job stereotyping!

amother

cornflower

Tue, Aug 28 2018, 9:25 am

Chayalle wrote:

It's not a question I ask when I call for info on boys, but I can't imagine that my girls would marry a boy from an anti-vax family. We would just not be the same type.

And what "type" is that?

Again with the stereotyping...