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Wed, Sep 12 2018, 10:14 pm
I was overtired, PMSing, and emotionally drained from spending Rosh Hashanah with my difficult family members when I came in to the office. Then I got assigned a new project at work- it’s got lots of really tight deadlines, and it’s very difficult, stressful work. Then my coworker reported me to our manager for doing something wrong. (I was trained in to do things the wrong way, and despite the fact that she’s pointed out the correct way of doing things to me before, I didn’t switch over to doing it because I was so used to doing things the wrong way. I was wrong in doing that, but she was wrong in going to our manager instead of discussing it with me.)
So I went outside, called a friend, and vented about work and my family. I was hysterical- talking loudly, angrily... It was SO DUMB of me!!!!!!!!!!!! 2 of my coworkers came out without me noticing and overheard some of it. I only noticed when I saw them heading back inside.
I came back in, sat down at my desk, and cried my eyes out. It’s a somewhat private cubicle in the corner of the office.
My manager stopped by and asked how things were going with the new project. I avoided eye contact, and could barely talk because I was scared I’d cry while answering. I told him it’s stressful, and he reminded me that I could ask him for help anytime.
I just feel so, so stupid and embarrassed about talking about my problems outside, and about crying at my desk... It was unprofessional and childish.
Please be kind and don’t rub my lack of good sense in my face. I know it was dumb.
If anyone has any advice on how to deal with painful emotions and being overtired at work, please share. And please share similar experiences, if you have any! Misery loves company...
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Wed, Sep 12 2018, 10:16 pm
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Oyyyyy. I don’t have anything to say but hugs. What a rotten day. Tomorrow will be better iyh.
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Wed, Sep 12 2018, 10:16 pm
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Sorry but why not make the call in the bathroom?
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Wed, Sep 12 2018, 10:20 pm
I've cried more than once at work. As a matter of fact I cried at three different work places. One time I had a melt down in the boss's office and needed to call my DH to pick me up because I was such a mess.
I think it's totally ok to cry, even at work, even in front of co workers . They eventually forget and don't think any less of you. They may just be concerned and want to make sure you are ok.
Just walk into the office tomorrow as if nothing happened , with your head held high. You will be ok , I promise BTDT
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Wed, Sep 12 2018, 10:27 pm
| hodeez wrote: | | Sorry but why not make the call in the bathroom? |
In many workplaces the bathroom would be less private than outside.
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Wed, Sep 12 2018, 10:30 pm
| hodeez wrote: | | Sorry but why not make the call in the bathroom? |
It's very easy to eavesdrop there, and OP wouldn't even realize anybody heard.
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Wed, Sep 12 2018, 10:46 pm
We all have very-bad-no-good days sometimes. I'm sorry you had yours at work, that can be embarrassing.
Work hard on this new project, and then one day when you're feeling good, you can casually mention to your boss "hey, thanks for the support last week when I was having a really bad day. I'm glad to report that the project is going well and we're meeting all of the deadlines."
I find that it's more comfortable to acknowledge awkward moments with some grace, than to let them be that "we'll just pretend that didn't happen" type of awkward thing.
You WILL look back on this one day and laugh!
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I did that a couple of times. You're a human being and everyone knows that. They are probably a little worried and not judging you at all. Give yourself the slack and compassion that you obviously need, and you will move on.
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Thu, Sep 13 2018, 6:50 am
You’re human, like everyone else at your office, and workplaces everywhere. It’s awful, but it happens.
I hope you have a better day today!
Hugs.
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Thu, Sep 13 2018, 10:08 pm
| amother wrote: | I was overtired, PMSing, and emotionally drained from spending Rosh Hashanah with my difficult family members when I came in to the office. Then I got assigned a new project at work- it’s got lots of really tight deadlines, and it’s very difficult, stressful work. Then my coworker reported me to our manager for doing something wrong. (I was trained in to do things the wrong way, and despite the fact that she’s pointed out the correct way of doing things to me before, I didn’t switch over to doing it because I was so used to doing things the wrong way. I was wrong in doing that, but she was wrong in going to our manager instead of discussing it with me.)
So I went outside, called a friend, and vented about work and my family. I was hysterical- talking loudly, angrily... It was SO DUMB of me!!!!!!!!!!!! 2 of my coworkers came out without me noticing and overheard some of it. I only noticed when I saw them heading back inside.
I came back in, sat down at my desk, and cried my eyes out. It’s a somewhat private cubicle in the corner of the office.
My manager stopped by and asked how things were going with the new project. I avoided eye contact, and could barely talk because I was scared I’d cry while answering. I told him it’s stressful, and he reminded me that I could ask him for help anytime.
I just feel so, so stupid and embarrassed about talking about my problems outside, and about crying at my desk... It was unprofessional and childish.
Please be kind and don’t rub my lack of good sense in my face. I know it was dumb.
If anyone has any advice on how to deal with painful emotions and being overtired at work, please share. And please share similar experiences, if you have any! Misery loves company... |
You’re being much too hard on yourself. You were overstressed and needed to vent and let off steam. You’re entitled. You can say something casual to your coworkers who overheard you like, “I’ve been going through a lot lately and had to vent. Vent I’ve now.” And then smile. Believe me, they’ll forget about it quickly.
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Didn’t read previous posts but I’ve also done this! Inexplicably and irrationally. It’s part of the territory. And it wasn’t “dumb”!!! U made a mistake. We all do. W have some compassion for yourself and learn from it. 
