We usually serve guests first. Do all your husbands not help out?
Generally, the men have been in shul while the ladies were home. DH loves to make cold cut platters even when it is only the 2 of us. He is in charge of drinks.
While the men are singing or making a l'chaim, I plate the fish and bring it to the sideboard. Salads are plated while the guys are in shul. I bring them to the sideboard. Dips are lined up on the sideboard. I like to get real food on the table as soon as everyone gets their challah.
I serve soup or chulent.
DH carves the main if it needs carving Friday night. I bring in the rest of the food. DH takes over dessert and cleanup.