Is this something I am supposed to be doing?

amother

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Tue, Feb 26 2019, 7:24 pm

Metukah wrote:

If she indeed has a mustache! So many teenagers today think they know what they need. I was the same as a teenager. My mother, sisters and I have very little, light body hair. I do my eyebrows once a year, and it's only a little shaping, I have no mustache hair to talk of, even hair removal on other body parts I only do every few months and even then my beautician tells me it's too early. So I'll be the first to honestly say that I don't understand enough. My 7 year old daughter has dark hair on her legs and I plan to get her started on waxing as soon as it is age appropriate, so I'm sure if she had mustache hair I would get that dealt with as well.

But, and this is a big but, I still don't think parents have to pay for it. If parents are struggling and the teenager can make some money to cover these things, as long as the parents are supportive, it's not so bad. When I was a teenager my parents struggled (that's what it seemed to me anyway), so I babysat and paid for camp, waxing, makeup etc..

Yes but for those teenagers with a dark, hairy mustache, I can't understand mothers who feel that their daughters have to pay for it.

4pom

Tue, Feb 26 2019, 9:17 pm

Raisin wrote:

this is great for removing lip hair. (other facial hair too but I don't have that bh)

https://www.tweezerman.com/smo........r.

Thank you for sharing this. It looks like something practical and helpful. I’m assuming it works like tweezers.
Thanks.

As for the OP
I think it depends on so many of the variables mentioned. I remember a friend being frustrated with her mother for not helping her - her mother was light skinned and light hair and had no idea about hair issues. My friend had dark, thick, hairy issues. Her sister was more matter of fact and assertive and less sensitive and had a great relationship with her mother and just told her, this is what I need and what’s socially accepted now. ( I’ve no idea about the payments )
One thing I will say is that it should come from the child to prevent body shaming.
My son has a unibrow since birth. Not sure what I’m going do about that...

Last edited by 4pom on Wed, Feb 27 2019, 3:11 am; edited 1 time in total

DrMom

Wed, Feb 27 2019, 1:40 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

Im sorry but when did hair removal become a basic need? Never. If a child wants to do that, they should be able to earn money and do it on their own. I dont think young kids need to be doing this anyway, and heres a shocker, this is not basic anything. Many many many many women never wax any part of their bodies ever.

This. I have seen a strong uptick in the number of questions about all kinds of hair removal here on imamother over the past several years.

It seems like the marketing executives in the hair removal industry have been earning big bonuses, as they have managed to convince millions of women that they need to remove every minute hair from every part of their bodies except the top of their heads. And it seems the trend is moving down the age ladder to teens as well.

Maybe when a girl is born, we can just aim a huge follicle-incinerating laser at the mother's birth canal and remove all the baby's body hair from day 1. Think of all the money she'll save over the course of a lifetime!