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gamzehyaavor




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 09 2019, 11:06 am
ShishKabob wrote:
I hear you. The truth is that we are usually set with a name way before the baby is born. I personally like it better. Like that all of the back and forth is settled and doesn't have to be dealt with in addition to all those out of whack hormones.

That’s ok. But to ask a shayla pre birth I think is pretty unusual.
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amother




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Post  Tue, Jul 09 2019, 11:23 am
When my last son was born my husband really wanted to give a name after his grandfather that passed away 20+ years ago. His name was on the birth certificate already, and the morning of his bris he decided to name the new baby after my grandfather who had passed away the year before. ( I told him to decide, We already had a few kids named after my side of the family..)
Well I’m now pregnant. Again with another boy and we will name him after that grandfather iyh..
Basically everything is bashert. ! The entire pregnancy we were sure he would be named xyz after the grandfather..
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miami85




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 09 2019, 2:07 pm
There's definitely different opinions on this, but we had a name shaila that would possibly interfere with my own husband's name, and the psak we were given was because my husband has 2 names, didn't use the name in question, and we were only giving one name, they are considered different names. We were told "different names are different names"

I have a nephew that wanted to name after my father, but one of the names is of an alive great-grandparent, they just gave 1 name.

That said it might be k'dai to wait on the one grandparent's name and that way someday the name can be used for both. I have a niece who didn't want to name after a great-grandparent b/c one name was because of her father-in-law's name--had several names, but might be too close for comfort.
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gamanit




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 09 2019, 3:22 pm
gamzehyaavor wrote:
That’s ok. But to ask a shayla pre birth I think is pretty unusual.


Yes, especially the asking of a shaila when OP doesn't even know whether she's having a girl or a boy yet.
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gold21




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 09 2019, 3:45 pm
gamanit wrote:
Yes, especially the asking of a shaila when OP doesn't even know whether she's having a girl or a boy yet.


I agree.

Not only is the baby still unborn, you don't know its gender. So why sweat it at this point.

And... It's just a name really. Name the child whatever name makes sense & makes you happy.
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Laiya




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 09 2019, 3:52 pm
ShishKabob wrote:
OP, relax. I totally understand the part of being upset when you were so set on something. The posters here can't relate really, because you are probably chassidish, hungarian and they are not. They can't even fathom what the issue is here.

You got a psak on a minhag and yes it's a psak nontheless.

Take the time to be sad about it and then take the time to accept upon yourself the ratzon Hashem. If Hashem wills it different then it has to be different.

May you have an easy birth and a healthy child and menuchas hanefesh.
Bhatzlocha


By definition, a psak is a halachik ruling.
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shanie5




 
 
 


Post  Wed, Jul 10 2019, 10:12 pm
I didn't read the whole thread, but want to put this idea out there.

I know a couple who wanted to give a name that was the mothers father, but the fathers father had the name too. Think moms dad was yankel shmuel, and the dads father was shmuel. They asked a shailah on using the full name. They were told "If the living parent is ok with it, you can use it".

They asked dads father if he would be ok with them using his name. His response was "as long as you don't call him that while I am alive". So they named the boy yankle shmuel, and called him yankel. When the dads father passed away, the boy then started using both names.
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agreer




 
 
 


Post  Thu, Jul 11 2019, 1:19 am
I'm confused by the grandfather's Hungarian name... How is that a Hebrew name? Why is that even a question?

Using Ruchel's example of "David Shmuel Sandor"... If Sandor is the Hungarian name... well, that's not really how we name. The name to be used is "David Shmuel".

If my grandma's name is Shira Elizabeth Smith (made up), obviously her Hebrew name is Shira and her English name is Elizabeth and I would name my child "Shira".
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Ema of 4




 
 
 


Post  Thu, Jul 11 2019, 2:20 pm
agreer wrote:
I'm confused by the grandfather's Hungarian name... How is that a Hebrew name? Why is that even a question?

Using Ruchel's example of "David Shmuel Sandor"... If Sandor is the Hungarian name... well, that's not really how we name. The name to be used is "David Shmuel".

If my grandma's name is Shira Elizabeth Smith (made up), obviously her Hebrew name is Shira and her English name is Elizabeth and I would name my child "Shira".

What do you mean? Plenty of people use ethnic and English names.
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agreer




 
 
 


Post  Thu, Jul 11 2019, 4:44 pm
Ema of 4 wrote:
What do you mean? Plenty of people use ethnic and English names.


Yes, they use the names, but they don't name them at the bris.

Continued example...If Grandpa's name was David Shalom Sandor, with Sandor being the Hungarian/ethnic name, then at the Bris you'd give the name David Shalom and then call him Sandor whenever you were in the mood... That was my question.

I don't understand how the Hungarian name is a name she would give at the bris.
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Ema of 4




 
 
 


Post  Thu, Jul 11 2019, 6:22 pm
agreer wrote:
Yes, they use the names, but they don't name them at the bris.

Continued example...If Grandpa's name was David Shalom Sandor, with Sandor being the Hungarian/ethnic name, then at the Bris you'd give the name David Shalom and then call him Sandor whenever you were in the mood... That was my question.

I don't understand how the Hungarian name is a name she would give at the bris.

So let’s say someone’s name is just sendor (or Sandro, or however you spell it- the name that often goes with Alexander) Of course that’s the name he gets at his bris, it’s his only name. Not everyone has a Hebrew name.
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