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amother




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Post  Mon, Jul 22 2019, 12:32 pm
Ds has never gone away before- not even to sleep away camp.

I want to send him off right and need some help.

1- on the first day of yeshiva when boys come with all their luggage to choose a bed, do mothers come also? Do we escort our son into the dorm to help him with his things/ make his bed?

2- do boys bring plastic drawers for their things?

3- does linen matter or an old set is okay?

4- do yeshivish boys have a cell phone to call home? If so I would only get him a dumb phone with no internet...

These are some of the things I can think of now. I’m sure I’ll be back with more questions soon. Thanks!
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amother




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Post  Mon, Jul 22 2019, 12:38 pm
It's best to call the yeshiva with all questions because every yeshiva has different rules. Ask them about rules regarding cell phones. Most dorms provide drawers & shelves for the boys, but do ask them about it. Also ask them in the mothers come the first day.
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amother




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Post  Mon, Jul 22 2019, 2:37 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
Ds has never gone away before- not even to sleep away camp.

I want to send him off right and need some help.

1- on the first day of yeshiva when boys come with all their luggage to choose a bed, do mothers come also? Do we escort our son into the dorm to help him with his things/ make his bed?

2- do boys bring plastic drawers for their things?

3- does linen matter or an old set is okay?

4- do yeshivish boys have a cell phone to call home? If so I would only get him a dumb phone with no internet...

These are some of the things I can think of now. I’m sure I’ll be back with more questions soon. Thanks!

I sent away my son at 13. He never went away before.
I asked these questions from other mothers who had boys in this yeshiva.
Parents do not go along to Yeshivah.
They take along plastic drawers to keep their stuff in.
I sent an old beautiful linen set, that's in a good condition.
My son doesn't have a cell phone, there are cordless phones in the dorm.
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amother




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Post  Mon, Jul 22 2019, 3:22 pm
It helps to know which yeshiva. The one my son is in, a lot of moms show up to make up beds, etc. My nephews go to a different one where that wou lb d be intensely embarrassing.
If you can specify, that would help!
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Hashem_Yaazor




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 23 2019, 9:26 pm
I'm also a first time mother to send away to yeshiva, but my son did go to camp last year...not that it helped with my questions! I called the yeshiva up to ask my first set of questions. I will reach out to mothers of boys in the yeshiva for my next set. And then there is my son who thinks he knows the answers to things.

Things I asked included how much room there is for storage of clothing (aka is 2 weeks of stuff a good amount), how they do laundry, things like that.
Every yeshiva has its own phone rule. Some let boys bring, others let boys bring but must turn into office, others don't let at all.
I am not having my son bring a fancy linen set and I didn't even ask. I just got a set of linen on Amazon for like $15 on Prime Day (limit 1 so not matching anything else) which will be perfect for him in camp (he's going again this year to sleepaway camp) and then yeshiva. Don't want to ruin anything. And boys really don't care.

My husband will probably bring my son up to yeshiva. Not me. But I know mothers who have shown up to some yeshivos and it was normal.
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amother




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Post  Tue, Jul 23 2019, 9:35 pm
Hashem_Yaazor wrote:
I'm also a first time mother to send away to yeshiva, but my son did go to camp last year...not that it helped with my questions! I called the yeshiva up to ask my first set of questions. I will reach out to mothers of boys in the yeshiva for my next set. And then there is my son who thinks he knows the answers to things.

Things I asked included how much room there is for storage of clothing (aka is 2 weeks of stuff a good amount), how they do laundry, things like that.
Every yeshiva has its own phone rule. Some let boys bring, others let boys bring but must turn into office, others don't let at all.
I am not having my son bring a fancy linen set and I didn't even ask. I just got a set of linen on Amazon for like $15 on Prime Day (limit 1 so not matching anything else) which will be perfect for him in camp (he's going again this year to sleepaway camp) and then yeshiva. Don't want to ruin anything. And boys really don't care.

My husband will probably bring my son up to yeshiva. Not me. But I know mothers who have shown up to some yeshivos and it was normal.


Do you mean that you will buy your son 14 white shirts???
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Hashem_Yaazor




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 23 2019, 9:56 pm
Nope, I plan on him doing laundry once a week, but I want another week of backups of socks and underwear in case they get holes/lost, etc Wink I was asking to get a feel because he has that amount for camp and if we were able to pack that all up.
I got him 8 pairs of pants and 8 white shirts for weekday. 3 Shabbos shirts, 1 suit, 1 blazer. Loafers, sneakers, Shabbos shoes. Workout/casual attire (maybe 2 sets) plus a pair of extra for PJs.

Also, it depends how often the boys come home. My son won't be home for 6 weeks at the beginning...
Also, it depends on how easy it is for them to shop for what they are missing...
Also, it depends if you can send via Amazon Prime or something if you need to....

Basically, many factors Very Happy
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Kumphort




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 23 2019, 10:00 pm
I would definitely talk to other mothers because culture can be different in each Yeshiva

I would suggest sending a back up set of linen just in case. There is not necessarily anywhere else to hang out and someone can spill something etc on their bed. Just better to have.

I would also send a small medicine kit. Tylenol bandaids. Cold medicine etc so that they have something on hand if needed
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Hashem_Yaazor




 
 
 


Post  Tue, Jul 23 2019, 10:11 pm
Kumphort wrote:
I would definitely talk to other mothers because culture can be different in each Yeshiva

I would suggest sending a back up set of linen just in case. There is not necessarily anywhere else to hang out and someone can spill something etc on their bed. Just better to have.

I would also send a small medicine kit. Tylenol bandaids. Cold medicine etc so that they have something on hand if needed

I appreciate this advice!
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