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amother
Peach
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 Sun, Aug 11 2019, 9:13 am
| amother [ OP ] wrote: | I have an "excuse"not to fast. My dh got a heter for me. But I'm feeling sort of fine. Slight headache, and weakness, and I'm feeling hungry lol. But I'm fine otherwise, and it's not dangerous for me to fast. So I try one more hour at a time. Is there a point? Dh makes me feel foolish for pushing off eating when I don't have to. I don't mind fasting and it makes more sense for me.
Anyone get me here? |
I tried that one year. Made it through and was sick for a month after. IV a week after. Still sick a month after. Never again.
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amother
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 9:16 am
| amother [ Peach ] wrote: | | I tried that one year. Made it through and was sick for a month after. IV a week after. Still sick a month after. Never again. |
Do you have a medical condition? Was a bad faster in past?
All this can impact the desicion to eat.
This doesn’t happen to most healthy people who have fasted in the past successfully.
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amother
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 9:21 am
| amother [ OP ] wrote: | I have an "excuse"not to fast. My dh got a heter for me. But I'm feeling sort of fine. Slight headache, and weakness, and I'm feeling hungry lol. But I'm fine otherwise, and it's not dangerous for me to fast. So I try one more hour at a time. Is there a point? Dh makes me feel foolish for pushing off eating when I don't have to. I don't mind fasting and it makes more sense for me.
Anyone get me here? |
If you got a better, its for a reason. Listen to your body and your Rabbi. It's not a mitzvah to fast if you aren't supposed to
My dd works in a special needs camp. The last fast was horrible. It was really hot with no AC. She didn't fast at all.
I asked about Tisha Bav. We were told she should start fasting. If she feels bad she should break her fast. Her camper is a really difficult, but adorable child.
Today bh it's not that hot. Dd will try to fast until Chatzos.
I have another dc in camp, almost bar/bat mitzvah age. Dr said dc shouldn't fast for a specific reason. Camp was Informed and dc will be the only one in the bunk not fasting
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ectomorph
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 9:25 am
It all depends what the heter is based on.
If you usually skip breakfast no problem, you don't eat it today just because you got a heter.
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amother
Peach
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 9:26 am
| amother [ Blonde ] wrote: | Do you have a medical condition? Was a bad faster in past?
All this can impact the desicion to eat.
This doesn’t happen to most healthy people who have fasted in the past successfully. |
I have a dehydration issue and have always been a bad faster.
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amother
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 9:40 am
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I had a panic attack last time I fasted. My rav said I can’t even try to fast. He told me I had to make havdala and eat and drink normally from the start of the fast.
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amother
OP
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 9:57 am
The situation is not so clear
I'm thinking of calling a Rav and hearing a personal answer from him
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dankbar
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 10:06 am
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how do you get havdalah now, if women dont drink from havdalah?
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stillnewlywed
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 10:09 am
| dankbar wrote: | | how do you get havdalah now, if women dont drink from havdalah? |
Women definitely can drink from havdala
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amother
Mustard
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 10:42 am
| dankbar wrote: | | how do you get havdalah now, if women dont drink from havdalah? |
My husband was told to make havdalah and that I should drink it
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Rappel
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 11:14 am
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I'm not allowed to day today, and it's really bothering me that I can't. I feel like I'm not zoned into Tisha B'Av. Kudos to everyone who is choosing to voluntarily!
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Beingreal
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 11:24 am
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I was told to make Havdalah on apple juice. If I fast, I can get really sick and land in the hospital. I feel like when people find out I can't fastn they make me feel I am doing something wrong.
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imasoftov
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 11:26 am
| dankbar wrote: | | how do you get havdalah now, if women dont drink from havdalah? |
There are different halachic opinions about women and havdalah, not just on a fast day, but also after any regular Shabbat. If a woman is from a community where women don't make havdalah for themselves needs to end her fast early she should ask a rav what to do.
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Aylat
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 11:40 am
| Rappel wrote: | | I'm not allowed to day today, and it's really bothering me that I can't. I feel like I'm not zoned into Tisha B'Av. Kudos to everyone who is choosing to voluntarily! |
You can be connected to the day even if you have to eat. The things I'm trying to do: eating plain foods, eg pita by itself with no fillings. Since I already broke my fast I went to shul this morning for leining and kinnot. Watched interviews with Holocaust survivors with my kids. And now trying to listen to a shiur about Eicha (in between making supper and mediating arguments).
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amother
Denim
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 11:47 am
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My baby is six weeks old. I am a pretty good faster. The rav said I shouldn’t fast and I drank grape juice after havdala last night. I will say it’s annoying to eat on those crazy low benches and because I’m not fasting I did forget and sit on regular chairs
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sury123
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 12:10 pm
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I don't fast b/c I'm nursing and my DH said I should not make havdalah ,wondering if he made a mistake ,does everyone make havdalah ?
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amother
Periwinkle
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 12:11 pm
| sury123 wrote: | | I don't fast b/c I'm nursing and my DH said I should not make havdalah ,wondering if he made a mistake ,does everyone make havdalah ? |
He should make havdala, and you should drink the grape juice.
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amother
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Sun, Aug 11 2019, 12:17 pm
| sury123 wrote: | | I don't fast b/c I'm nursing and my DH said I should not make havdalah ,wondering if he made a mistake ,does everyone make havdalah ? |
Some people hold that you can eat and hear havdallah at night
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