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amother




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Post  Sun, Oct 20 2019, 1:09 pm
In flatbush how much is nice amount to give as a bar mitzvah present for a nephew? Its. Weekday affair. Want to give a check not a gift. Thanks for all input
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amother




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Post  Tue, Oct 22 2019, 11:58 pm
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allthingsblue




 
 
 


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 12:05 am
$180 would probably be considered nice.
$360 is generous.
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amother




OP


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 9:35 am
Any others?
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amother




Cerulean


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 9:51 am
We give around $50-75
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amother




Natural


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 9:54 am
I have a lot of nephew bar Mitzvah, I always get them a leather esrog box. The bar mitzva boys love it, they feel so special using it, and it’s only $50
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amother




Emerald


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 10:33 am
allthingsblue wrote:
$180 would probably be considered nice.
$360 is generous.


It depends which community but this sounds about right
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amother




Tangerine


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 11:22 am
amother [ Natural ] wrote:
I have a lot of nephew bar Mitzvah, I always get them a leather esrog box. The bar mitzva boys love it, they feel so special using it, and it’s only $50


That is so cool.
Maybe I should get that for Brother In Law?
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dankbar




 
 
 


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 11:52 am
Many people pool together money from entire family & get one bigger gift together. Like a silver becher, silver menorah or large full set of seforim that is more money etc
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shmosmom




 
 
 


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 11:55 am
amother [ Natural ] wrote:
I have a lot of nephew bar Mitzvah, I always get them a leather esrog box. The bar mitzva boys love it, they feel so special using it, and it’s only $50


Looking into this. Is it real leather or vegan leather?
Where do you get it?
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amother




Natural


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 12:17 pm
shmosmom wrote:
Looking into this. Is it real leather or vegan leather?
Where do you get it?


I honestly don’t know. I assume it’s real but don’t quote me on that. I live in Lakewood, all the judaica stores carry them around succos, but only Lakewood Judaica has them year round
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amother




OP


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 1:48 pm
dankbar wrote:
Many people pool together money from entire family & get one bigger gift together. Like a silver becher, silver menorah or large full set of seforim that is more money etc


We wouldnt do that. Different people in the family have different means so that wouldn’t work well.
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amother




Burgundy


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 2:55 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
We wouldnt do that. Different people in the family have different means so that wouldn’t work well.


My son had a Monsey Bar Mitzvah. The typical gift was $100, and pretty much everyone gave. My siblings gave $180. I assume Flatbush is fancier.
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amother




Crimson


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 6:13 pm
amother [ Cerulean ] wrote:
We give around $50-75


A gift is relative. For someone who isn’t poor, that would not be a nice size gift for a nephew. If it’s affordable, a more suitable amount would be ta least $200. Regular guests who aren’t related give at least $125 at a bar mitzvah these days.
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amother




Tan


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 6:22 pm
I give $50 for nephew Bar Mitzvah's. I used to give $100 but at this point I ka"h have about 3 a year.
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amother




Cerulean


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 6:52 pm
amother [ Crimson ] wrote:
A gift is relative. For someone who isn’t poor, that would not be a nice size gift for a nephew. If it’s affordable, a more suitable amount would be ta least $200. Regular guests who aren’t related give at least $125 at a bar mitzvah these days.

Ka"h we had 5 bar mitzvahs and 4 weddings in the immediate family recently. I guess you'd rather I stay home if you were my sister-in-law and making a bar mitzvah.
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amother




Blue


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 9:54 pm
im oot. we do 50 to friends and 100 to nephews. we aren't rich or poor. we arent lacking but I wouldnt even describe us as comfortable. more like squeezed LOL
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amother




Lawngreen


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 10:04 pm
omg, $180?? For every bar mitzvah?? Surprised

We get a gift for under $50 and can’t imagine my other cash-strapped sibs and sibs-in-law are doing much differently. Kah, with the number of bar mitzvahs we have each year, a super-large gift expectation like this would just be another major financial stressor and goodness knows we have more than enough of those!
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allthingsblue




 
 
 


Post  Wed, Oct 23 2019, 10:21 pm
amother [ Lawngreen ] wrote:
omg, $180?? For every bar mitzvah?? Surprised

We get a gift for under $50 and can’t imagine my other cash-strapped sibs and sibs-in-law are doing much differently. Kah, with the number of bar mitzvahs we have each year, a super-large gift expectation like this would just be another major financial stressor and goodness knows we have more than enough of those!


She asked what's considered "nice," which I read to mean "better than decent/standard."
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amother




OP


Post  Thu, Oct 24 2019, 6:43 am
allthingsblue wrote:
She asked what's considered "nice," which I read to mean "better than decent/standard."


Thanks. Thats is what I meant. He is an only son and we don't have many at this point so I felt like giving a nice gift. But for the others who have posted I do have sils whose husbands are in kollel and giving $36.
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