Do you screen before sending to play dates?

amother

Brunette

Thu, Nov 07 2019, 1:40 pm

ShishKabob wrote:

I am very friendly with this secretary, she's almost like my friend. Does that count?

I am very friendly with the secretary at our kuppat cholim. She's practically my friend. Is it ok if I ask her which medications everyone is taking?
This is le'toelet. I wouldn't want my child to visit a home where one of the parents suffers from a syndrome or illness I don't approve of. I consider this due diligence. How else can I find out if someone is mentally ill or has an STD??

amother

Brunette

Fri, Nov 08 2019, 12:21 am

amother [ Brunette ] wrote:

Why did I get two hugs?
I was being tongue in cheek. Did the huggers not realise that? Or did they think I'm crazy for making such a big deal of staff sharing information?

I work at a school. We hear very, very personal information about kids and their homes. Sometimes I hear directly from the kids and their parents, sometimes another member of staff tells me so I can do my job.

I have not signed any forms of confidentiality, they don't have that at schools in Israel. But I would consider it a terrible breach of ethics to share any of this info with any of my friends. Not even a general warning telling them a home is problematic. (If it's safe enough to send the first pupil to live in his home, it's safe enough for your child to visit).

What I hear at school, stays at school.