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Sat, Nov 09 2019, 10:15 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | Have some simchas coming up where we will be placed for shabbos.
Do we supply the hostess gift? Or is it redundant, assuming the baal simcha gives something to the hosts? |
Don’t assume the baal simcha gives gifts to all the people who agree to put up guests. It is your responsibility to give the gift.
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Sat, Nov 09 2019, 10:18 pm
I've hosted, and don't expect a gift from anyone when they're coming just to sleep.
However, I usually do get a gift from the baali Simcha, and sometimes from the guest.
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Sat, Nov 09 2019, 10:24 pm
I bring something, like a chocolate or nut platter. Knock on their door erev Shabbos (assuming you have a separate entrance) and say thank you.
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Sat, Nov 09 2019, 10:43 pm
I would bring the gift as the guest.
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Sun, Nov 10 2019, 5:07 am
I would give to where I'm hosted, not necessarily if someone hosts someone my side
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Sun, Nov 10 2019, 8:15 am
Even if a gift was already given, it’s still a nice gesture to bring one of your own.
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Sun, Nov 10 2019, 8:47 am
amother [ Firebrick ] wrote: | I usually don't bring, but I think many people do. My mother in law has an offical hachnasis orchim room, she usually just gets thanked/ chocolate/flowers by the baal simcha. I do think gifts by guests are really nice and thoughtful, I just usually dont it because it's the one love language that I'm 0% with. |
If you are aware of it, which clearly you are, start bringing something if you can afford. It can be easy, like a bottle of wine which is less than $10 and requires no thought or effort (keep a bunch in the house or recycle one you got) but shows Hakarat hatov, rather than appearing as entitled.
Also, to everyone, please offer to strip the beds. Some people prefer you do, some prefer you don't, but offer.
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Sun, Nov 10 2019, 8:54 am
Please do NOT strip the bed. You basically enforce laundry on me (or mess)
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