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groisamomma

Wed, Jan 08 2020, 11:42 pm

My 13 year old needs a little motivation in one area so we're starting a new contest. As rewards, she wants to earn a scratch-off paper with a different treat or privilege each time. I ran out of ideas. Can you anyone think of anything else? Nothing too pricy-she doesn't have major expectations yet. No electronics or late bedtimes.

So far I have these:

Win $1/$2,etc.
Chocolate bar
Trip to 7-Eleven
Free Shabbos job
$3 to spend at Dollar Tree
Coffee with Mommy
Scratch-off lottery card
Ice cream
Sleepover with a friend
Manicure

Thank you so much!

trixx

Wed, Jan 08 2020, 11:47 pm

Hot breakfast
Special snack or lunch for school
Java latte kind of drink

Could you build in more quality time? Manicure with mommy. Accompanying Ma in errands (let's say Costco and she gets a soda or KRM and she chooses a treat)
Sushi

groisamomma

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 12:29 am

trixx wrote:

I'm definitely using the sushi and special lunch and snack ideas!

She's been my errand assistant for years--complete with all the perks.

Thanks!

amother

Seafoam

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 12:40 am

Craft kit
Fun baking session
Hair accessory
Fun/cute/funky socks
Charm for a charm bracelet (if those still exist)
Popcorn party
Paint night (walmart has supplies for cheap)

groisamomma

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:08 am

amother [ Seafoam ] wrote:

Craft kit
Fun baking session
Hair accessory
Fun/cute/funky socks
Charm for a charm bracelet (if those still exist)
Popcorn party
Paint night (walmart has supplies for cheap)

I love these! Keep them coming please!

dankbar

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:14 am

Outing with mommy or friends like game arcades, ice skating, bowling, mall, museum, library.
A new novel or more reading time
Do crossword puzzles or sudoko with mommy
Attend a performance
Go to a cousin/friend for Shabbos
Have friends over
Watch a DVD kosher is that also a no no?
Take a course like food/cake decorating, art or music lessons
Points towards a larger purchase like a musical instrument, camera, game etc
swimming_gym- aerobics
play trivial game with mom
Visit someone special
Travel to another city

dankbar

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:21 am

A new keychain for her backpack
add to her favorite collection whatever it is that she is collecting
Points towards a jewelry
Time with grandma
A day off from school
Something she can distribute to her class
Sit & help her create a scrapbook of her baby/camp/school pics
photo shoot
new watch
new towel/slippers/ hoodie/bathrobe
A hair dryer/iron/curler

dankbar

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:30 am

You can sit & do crafts with her like string art/shrinky dinks/crocheting/pottery/jewelery making/ soap making/ tie dye/airbrushing/making hair accesories/potpourri etc.
help her organize her stuff
Take her on a shopping spree
more phone time
teach her some skills/ could also be via book or online instructions with your supervision
let her cook a meal on her own
she can choose the favorite supper she wants you to cook
promise to chaperone her together with her friends on a chol hamoad outing
A night in hotel
A restaurant dinner

dankbar

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:38 am

If she takes a bus to school you can take her with car so she can sleep in longer, on one day.
Let her volunteer
New fun eyeglasses
Take her along to a wedding/ simcha instead of her having to babysit at home
or let her friends join her in babysitting.
Make popcorn/peanut chews/ cupcakes/cookies with her.

dankbar

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:44 am

You can help her study for a test or let her have a study partner over
A shalosh seudos with her friends
A separate phone line
A new addition to her room like a clock/ mirror
You can do a big jigsaw puzzle with her.
it's endless, as long as you don't say enough I will keep thinking! lol!

salt

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:52 am

Go out for a slice of pizza.
Earrings.

What's a free shabbos job by the way?

dankbar

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 2:24 am

I think that means to say that she is potur of doing her chore on Shabbos

dankbar

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 2:28 am

Emoji/ autograph pillow

Ruchel

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 5:45 am

Coffee for a 13 year old? manicure? many beauticians don't take under 18 or 16

groisamomma

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:24 pm

Ruchel wrote:

Coffee for a 13 year old? manicure? many beauticians don't take under 18 or 16

"Coffee" for us means caffeine for me and juice for her lol. We usually share a muffin.

Manicure isn't the same as what you and I would do. For her it means she gets her toenails painted for $3 by the beautician and she's happy. (She calls that a manicure even though it's her toenails Very Happy

)

amother

Slategray

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:27 pm

13 is old enough for caffeine.

flowerpower

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:30 pm

Pick whats for dinner one night
Have her hair done for Shabbos by a cheap salon
Iced coffee from the neighborhood bake shop
Sandwich from the breakfast place

chestnut

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:30 pm

How would you do these scratch tix? I mean, she scratches and...? It won't be written there, will it? If yes, where do you get supplies for this?

Odelyah

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 1:39 pm

groisamomma wrote:

I think anything like the bolded is best-- anything that she enjoys that involves spending time together. Could be baking something of her choice at night just the two of you after younger kids (if you have any) are in bed, if she likes baking. We live right near a beautiful park and a 7-11, so a walk to, and in the park together followed by a slurpee is wonderful treat. Really anything that's special for her-- but your full attention, enjoying time together will be the best part.

amother

Hotpink

Thu, Jan 09 2020, 2:03 pm

Ruchel wrote:

Coffee for a 13 year old? manicure? many beauticians don't take under 18 or 16

Welcome to the US, where kids get mani pedis at age 3.

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