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amother




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Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 6:16 pm
without feeling horrible about myself. (probably shouldve put this in emotional health but...).I look like a frog and whoever's next to me in the photo looks like a princess...
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amother




Cerulean
 

Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 6:49 pm
I'm sure you look great. It's the inside that really counts but I do understand the pressure to look/feel good. Hatzlocho
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amother




Mauve
 

Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 7:50 pm
We just did family pics with all my ILs. I want to vomit after looking at the proofs. It was very motivating to get me back on a diet and exercise program -- but those pics are still out there. My MIL will hang them up on her wall. The photographer posted them on his website and on facebook. I'm so embarrassed.
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amother




Coffee
 

Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 7:52 pm
I'm very self conscious of how I look in pictures. I'm not photogenic, my smile and posture are awful.
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amother




Lawngreen
 

Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 7:58 pm
I was literally about to post this today.
I hate the way I look.
I have no pix of myself since after my son's bris because it hurts to look. My lively, blue eyes and gray, dead, and puffy. My bright, healthy skin is papery, green, and dull. My lips are pale, cheeks sunken in. I have fine lines and discoloration. AND IM 23!!!!!
I totally feel you. Sending you hugs! I'm sure you're gorgeous Hug
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amother




Taupe
 

Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 8:09 pm
I didn’t hire a photographer at my sons barmitzva years ago because of weight gain soon I’ll have to walk him down the aisle I’m so embarrassed at party’s I walk away when pictures are taken at my mother in laws home theirs albums with me in them that I can’t stand
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Madam F.




 
 
 
 

Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 9:18 pm
amother [ Taupe ] wrote:
I didn’t hire a photographer at my sons barmitzva years ago because of weight gain soon I’ll have to walk him down the aisle I’m so embarrassed at party’s I walk away when pictures are taken at my mother in laws home theirs albums with me in them that I can’t stand


Im sorry that you are struggling with your weight. That sucks. But honestly isnt it a bit selfish not to hire a photographer for that reason? Its about him not you.
I apologize if my tone comes across as mean. Im asking in a nice way.
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amother




Babyblue
 

Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 9:28 pm
I am sure that irl people see past that and see the full picture - your positive traits, your personality, etc... A picture doesn't capture everything.
I happen to be pretty but I cringe when I look at photos of myself. I am very un-photogenic and I just look horrible.
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amother




Gray
 

Post  Mon, Jan 13 2020, 11:16 pm
I agree 100% with your feelings

A few weeks ago I went through all the digital pictures we have and deleted every picture of myself that I found.

I am only taking pictures of my kids at my sons bar mitzvah in a few weeks.

And as an aside I am skinny and young (32) but self loathing isn’t logical.
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heidi




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jan 14 2020, 12:29 am
I beg to disagree. Self loathing can be super logical. I am absolutely monstrous in pictures. Somehow every one of my 5 chins and fat creases in my face are highlighted, no matter what the angle of the picture.
I cringe and have to walk away every time I see a picture of myself.
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amother




Mint
 

Post  Tue, Jan 14 2020, 12:43 am
I don't understand how I look more or less passable in the mirror but so awful in pictures.

I usually go back down somewhat after a baby, but this one left 30+ lb that isn't going anywhere. And now I'm pregnant again, so there's that! (Nobody is able to tell, because I've looked pregnant for 2 years already.)
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amother




Wheat
 

Post  Tue, Jan 14 2020, 12:46 am
amother [ OP ] wrote:
without feeling horrible about myself. (probably shouldve put this in emotional health but...).I look like a frog and whoever's next to me in the photo looks like a princess...


I’ve always felt the same!!! Hug
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Snickers18




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jan 14 2020, 2:58 am
I can sympathize as I’m pretty self-conscious myself (I actually look pleasant in real life but am horribly unphotogenic), but I make a concerted effort to be in pictures with my family because I don’t want my kids to pick up on it (if I wouldn’t want it for them, why should I do it myself?) and because why shouldn’t one of the most important people in my spouse’s and children’s lives be shown with them, for them to look back on fondly? I have to realize (and do) that this is my hang-up and that my husband and kids love making memories with me and seeing pictures of me. I’m only sorry I didn’t commit to this earlier. Just sharing another perspective that many of you may not have thought of and hoping that even if some of you never come to a place of complete self-acceptance, that at least you are able to see yourself through the eyes of those who love you. ❤️

Some articles of interest:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/m.....7/amp

https://www.google.com/amp/s/w.....9/amp

https://www.scarymommy.com/why.....otos/
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etky




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jan 14 2020, 3:11 am
amother [ Wheat ] wrote:
I’ve always felt the same!!! Hug


Me three. I absolutely loathe being in pictures and will never voluntarily look at a picture of myself. In real life I think I look passable, fine even, but in pictures all my flaws are highlighted. And believe me, it gets worse as you get older and there are more flaws Sad
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amother




Amber
 

Post  Tue, Jan 14 2020, 8:19 am
I’m also very unphotogenic and need to lose weight BUT I say to myself, tough that’s what I look like and if I want people to remember me with pictures, that’s what I look like.
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etky




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jan 14 2020, 8:24 am
amother [ Amber ] wrote:
I’m also very unphotogenic and need to lose weight BUT I say to myself, tough that’s what I look like and if I want people to remember me with pictures, that’s what I look like.


You're absolutely right. I wish I could do that.
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amother




Slateblue
 

Post  Tue, Jan 14 2020, 8:30 am
amother [ Gray ] wrote:
I agree 100% with your feelings

A few weeks ago I went through all the digital pictures we have and deleted every picture of myself that I found.

I am only taking pictures of my kids at my sons bar mitzvah in a few weeks.

And as an aside I am skinny and young (32) but self loathing isn’t logical.


I am so sad for your kids. They wouldn't care about your (self perceived) flaws. Kids of every age are thrilled to have pictures of/with mom years down the line.
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