 |
|
 |
 |
|
|
Forum
-> Relationships
-> Manners & Etiquette
|
amother
OP
|
 Wed, Jan 15 2020, 1:21 pm
DH comes from a large family. We are the only ones who live OOT, and at least once a year, someone from his extended family wants to "visit" I.e. vacation here and stay with us.
We have a 3-bedroom house and 3 children - 2 in one room, and then the baby. Before the baby was born, I had a "spare" room but now my only option is to move the baby into my room...and I don't want to!
If someone wants to come for winter vacation (teenage girls), can I say, "Sure, but only if you sleep with the baby" (which works for me), or do I have to accommodate them and move the baby into my room?
The problem is, they also live in small 3-bedroom houses in NY/NJ, but they have basements and host us when we come in for a wedding or pesach, which happens 1-2 times every 1-2 years. They do not need to move their kids around for us.
What do you think?
| |
|
| Back to top |
 1
 0
|
singleagain
|
Wed, Jan 15 2020, 1:25 pm
|
I think you have every right to say no if it doesn't work with you
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
5
|
|
amother
Apricot
|
Wed, Jan 15 2020, 1:27 pm
I think it's fine to put guests in the same room as your baby. Unless they'll disturb your baby (and make it harder for you).
We're the opposite. The only in town family. We don't have a guest room and rarely have guests, but when we do, they're in the kids' room. (Obviously, the person is someone we trust to be in the kids room).
Alternatively, can the baby go with the other kids?
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
1
|
|
amother
Sienna
|
Wed, Jan 15 2020, 2:40 pm
If people are inviting themselves for a vacation, you don't need to put yourself out.
Personally, I would not want my baby sleeping in a room with guests because I don't want to have to get fully dressed if baby needs to be changed or otherwise tended to at 5am.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
3
|
pbandjelly
|
Wed, Jan 15 2020, 4:00 pm
Hmm that's a tough one. I feel if they are hosting you once a year then it is nice to reciprocate. Can you put your baby in your kids room?
If it really isn't working out to move the baby then be upfront and explain why they can't stay.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
2
|
|
amother
Black
|
Wed, Jan 15 2020, 4:03 pm
Hachnasas Orchim
Is not an easy mitzvah.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
2
|
|
amother
Silver
|
Wed, Jan 15 2020, 5:11 pm
|
Once a year I would inconvenience myself to host them. I'm in the same situation.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
1
|
|
Imamother may earn commission when you use our links to make a purchase.
© 2024 Imamother.com - All rights reserved
|  |
 |
|
 |
|
|
