Bat mitzva- male DJ?

amother

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 3:30 pm

So I'm having a hard time finding a dj for DD's bat mitzva. There's a guy I know who is available but is it weird to have a male? DD is okay with it and says other girls have done it and the dj said he's done it before. But since he'd be outside the mechitza, can you really provide music for dancers you can't see?

amother

Azure

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 3:52 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Hmmmm this really goes against what the girls are taught tzenuis wise. We teach them that it's untzenuis to dance in front a men. And you'll want to bring a male DJ? It's either right or wrong.

amother

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 3:56 pm

amother [ Azure ] wrote:

Hmmmm this really goes against what the girls are taught tzenuis wise. We teach them that it's untzenuis to dance in front a men. And you'll want to bring a male DJ? It's either right or wrong.

if you read my post you'd see I said there's a mechitza. you teach your kids they can't dance in any man is in the vicinity and they're blocked from his view? so I assume your kids won't even dance at their own weddings

singleagain

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:09 pm

In my school's mother daughter production, the male piano playing vice principal did his thing behind a mechitza when the girls sang and performed.

amother

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:25 pm

naturalmom5 wrote:

DJs and Mehitzas , is that a thing now.... Confused

I'll probably regret this but what's the problem?

amother

Azure

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:26 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Sorry, you wrote that he'll be outside the mechitza, I understood that he'll be at the girls section & see the girls dancing. Sorry.
If he's behind a mechitza, what's the issue? It's just like any other simcha.

amother

Ruby

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:26 pm

Is there a school rule about such things? DD's school only allows appropriately dressed female entertainers at a bat mitzvah with the threat of suspension if the rule isn't followed.

amother

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:37 pm

amother [ Ruby ] wrote:

Is there a school rule about such things? DD's school only allows appropriately dressed female entertainers at a bat mitzvah with the threat of suspension if the rule isn't followed.

Nope. Public religious school in Israel. They don't really make rules for outside of school behavior.

naturalmom5

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:39 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I'll probably regret this but what's the problem?

Maybe its my limited exposure , but I always pictured a DJ at a Reform/conservative or perhaps LWMO affair

Whats the mehitza for ???

amother

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:45 pm

naturalmom5 wrote:

Maybe its my limited exposure , but I always pictured a DJ at a Reform/conservative or perhaps LWMO affair

Whats the mehitza for ???

so the girls and female guests can dance?
Are my friends and I supposed to be dancing without one in front of FIL, my father, BILs, older nephews?

amother

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:47 pm

naturalmom5 wrote:

Maybe its my limited exposure , but I always pictured a DJ at a Reform/conservative or perhaps LWMO affair

Whats the mehitza for ???

How do you play music? I'm not interested in setting up a playlist and hooking to the sound system, dealing wiht potential issues, etc and B"H the extra cost isn't really a problem

DrMom

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:50 pm

naturalmom5 wrote:

Maybe its my limited exposure , but I always pictured a DJ at a Reform/conservative or perhaps LWMO affair

Whats the mehitza for ???

There are DJs who play simcha music. It's much more affordable than a band.

naturalmom5

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:51 pm

Ok...

I guess that there is a dj and there is a

DJ....YO LETS ROCK Very Happy

Mazal Tov...

amother

Ginger

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:52 pm

Um, has anyone ever been to a wedding? The all-male band is absolutely never behind a mechitza and the women dance in front of them, no problem.

Ema of 5

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 4:57 pm

amother [ Ginger ] wrote:

Um, has anyone ever been to a wedding? The all-male band is absolutely never behind a mechitza and the women dance in front of them, no problem.

They are usually on the mend side of the room though

amother

Azure

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 5:01 pm

amother [ Ginger ] wrote:

Um, has anyone ever been to a wedding? The all-male band is absolutely never behind a mechitza and the women dance in front of them, no problem.

This really depends on the community and circles.
And most of the time the band is at the mens side.
And because the women are dancing "no problem" in front of the all male band, it doesn't make it ok and no problem.

amother

Ginger

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 5:01 pm

Ema of 4 wrote:

They are usually on the mend side of the room though

Not really, no.

amother

Smokey

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 5:03 pm

amother [ Ginger ] wrote:

Um, has anyone ever been to a wedding? The all-male band is absolutely never behind a mechitza and the women dance in front of them, no problem.

Not necessarily. Many people put the band on the men's side, or an extra mechitza between.

When I was at Stern, we had a male band behind a mechitza. The major annoyance was the inability to sing. But that's irrelevant if you have men in the room anyway.

Have you looked for a female keyboard player?

amother

Azure

Tue, Feb 18 2020, 5:09 pm

amother [ Ginger ] wrote:

Not really, no.

Again, this depends on the community and circles. But most of the time the band is at the mens side. An all Male band only makes sense to be at the mens side.