Teen Dd is calmer and better behaved with no school

amother

Thu, May 07 2020, 8:18 am

She loves her school and friends and very popular and excellent student. But surprisingly she is better behaved at home when there is no school. She used to have outbursts at Dh and me and be chutzpah a lot now she is just extremely better. Do you see that in your children?

Maryann

Thu, May 07 2020, 8:23 am

Yes !! My kids are much calmer
There are still plenty of fights tension but there definitely a atmosphere of peace and serenity now bh

FranticFrummie

Thu, May 07 2020, 10:09 am

DD made honor roll for the first time in her life. She is plowing through her school work like it's a video game, and she's trying to get to the next level!

Being able to go at her own pace, get help when she needs it, and speed ahead when she knows the material, has been like a miracle for her. Anxiety and depression are way down, and she's very optimistic about graduating with top grades.

amother

Amber

Thu, May 07 2020, 10:20 am

I'm finding that they are less stressed because the social pressure is limited.
Even if there are virtual goings-on, knowledge of them is limited, so they don't have the feeling of missing out. There is also less stress about being "on" and always bringing their A-game.
SATs are currently off the table (but I wish she would use the time to study) and checking out college is virtual and taking less of a front seat. There is still stress, but it is very different.

She bleary eyed from being on Zoom for 6-7 hours a day, and is desperate to go back to school. She still has a ton of work and hours of homework every night, but it is still less stressful in our house.

amother

Thu, May 07 2020, 10:39 am

Dd doesn’t have zoom. It’s a pretty frum Bais Yaakov. They have phone sessions and a lot of homework. She is on the phone with friends and I opened netflix for her with restrictions of course.

Zehava

Thu, May 07 2020, 3:58 pm

My 6-8 year olds are doing loads better without school.
They’re calmer, more creative, playing with toys for the first time in years and generally are just kids again.

little neshamala

Thu, May 07 2020, 4:17 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

All my kids are doing better with no real school. They do have phone conference/zoom but its a lot less pressure than usual school, AND theres no more devoting their whole evening to homework. ...
Because theyre not coming home from a school day totally exhausted and facing even more work, my kids are now calm and relaxed which in turn makes them happier and less chutzpadik. I see such a big difference its incredible.
Makes me really hate real school even more.

notshanarishona

Thu, May 07 2020, 5:01 pm

I am a special ed teacher. Interestingly , about 1/3 of my students are doing significantly better in zoom lessons than in person lessons. There is no social pressure to misbehave and no one to fight with (or when they fight I can just mute them). About 1/3 of them are really struggling. And the rest are somewhere in the middle. The shorter hours, less sitting time, less distractions, are definitely better for some students.

amother

Aubergine

Thu, May 07 2020, 5:05 pm

notshanarishona wrote:

That must be hard for them

notshanarishona

Thu, May 07 2020, 5:27 pm

amother [ Aubergine ] wrote:

That must be hard for them

Yes- but that way class doesn't get interrupted and they can still chat with me through the text on zoom. They are not supposed to be talking to each other anyways during class unless I put them in a breakout room .

HelloG

Thu, May 07 2020, 5:31 pm

lots of people are reporting that
some children aren't cut out for school
and the stress induced by all the homework and schoolwork is def a broken system

simba

Thu, May 07 2020, 5:43 pm

Same here. Happy going kids. Waking up much later, less restrictive schedules, not out of the house for many long hours, mommy isn't working.. definitely an upgrade for them.

amother

Crimson

Thu, May 07 2020, 5:45 pm

And mine are the opposite.
They love, love, love school.
They're not great phone shmoozers, and school provides the bulk of their social interaction, and the impetus to reach out to friends at night.
Despite conference calls, phone conversations with friends, family games, walks, bike rides, etc, they are all dealing with increasingly higher levels of depression that creates yelling, fighting, chutzpa, irritability, and in decreased interest in keeping up with the school work cuz "what's the point. Stupid Murphy is going to keep me locked in my house for the rest of my life".

amother

Orchid

Thu, May 07 2020, 5:51 pm

My 13 yo son finally stopped wetting his bed..... he’s pretty chilled about school but it seems the social and teacher pressure was more than we realized. So happy the problem wasn’t from family pressure Smile

amother

Babypink

Thu, May 07 2020, 9:32 pm

Zehava wrote:

My 6-8 year olds are doing loads better without school.
They’re calmer, more creative, playing with toys for the first time in years and generally are just kids again.

same here
my 10 year old ASD kid has very very few ASD traits right now.... hmmm.....
Much Less rigidity, less anxiety, less oppositional behaviors, he has learned how to play imaginative games, he is getting along with his sisters and socially distant getting along with the neighbors. SO much more cooperative, easygoing, better at conflict resolution, motivated to do his zoom classes, more OK with my expressions of emotions, handling not getting what he wants/expects better and can verbalize that challenge better...

hmmm........

he happens to love school and love structure.

hmmmmm......
I have a lot to think about before school next year