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amother




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Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:34 pm
I’m one of the few people in my area that has a pool. How can I nicely tell neighbors I don’t lend it out? I don’t want the responsibility and nervous about safety! Even when I’m with my kids, I’ll invite a relative like my sisters but not a neighbor with a bunch of kids. Don’t want anyone being mad at me!!
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amother




Linen
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:35 pm
In Covid times you can easily say you asked your dr. and s/he says no. ask to be telling the truth
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amother




Tangerine
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:36 pm
Tell them your kids pee in it and you don't chlorinate because you think chlorine is bad for their skin.
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amother




Seafoam
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:36 pm
Just say no.

I have a neighbor with a pool and I asked her if she ever rents it out - for money. She said no she wants it always available for her kids. Otherwise she has to start dividing girls and boys. I've never asked again.

Don't beat around the bush. Say no, and that's it.
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Blessing1




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:36 pm
It's so normal to say that you don't allow other's to use your pool. Nothing to feel bad about.
It's not your problem that a neighbor is mad at you for not letting them use your pool, it's not a public pool.
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hodeez




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:38 pm
Yup just say no
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SixOfWands




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:41 pm
No is a complete sentence.

If you feel the need to explain, tell them that its not permitted under your insurance.
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thunderstorm




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:41 pm
Just say that you don’t want to lend out your pool. No reason needs to be given. Many people don’t allow others to use their pool for liability reasons . There is no reason to feel bad about it.
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banana123




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:56 pm
Just say no.
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LovesHashem




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:57 pm
Just say I don't want to get sued if anything happens - so no.
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amother




Cobalt
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 4:57 pm
I have a neighbor (actually a few) who don’t lend out pools.
They just say they don’t let others use it.
Once in a while they may invite one child but make it clear it’s a one time thing.
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amother




Blue
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 5:08 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
I’m one of the few people in my area that has a pool. How can I nicely tell neighbors I don’t lend it out? I don’t want the responsibility and nervous about safety! Even when I’m with my kids, I’ll invite a relative like my sisters but not a neighbor with a bunch of kids. Don’t want anyone being mad at me!!


Just say, sorry we have to keep it strictly family.
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Cheiny




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 5:08 pm
amother [ Linen ] wrote:
In Covid times you can easily say you asked your dr. and s/he says no. ask to be telling the truth


Never a need to lie
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ra_mom




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 5:10 pm
Sorry, it's an insurance issue. No, not an option. No, not even if you watch your own kids. No, sorry.
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amother




Dodgerblue
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 5:24 pm
No. If you expand, Tell them your home insurance does not cover that and therefore dh & you do not do that, you are not comfortable with that level of being irresponsible. Let them think you are uptight, who cares.
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amother




Seashell
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 5:28 pm
Blame it on your husband! Tell your neighbors that he’s not comfortable letting people use your pool.

Then say you’re sorry...
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singleagain




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 5:41 pm
amother [ Seashell ] wrote:
Blame it on your husband! Tell your neighbors that he’s not comfortable letting people use your pool.

Then say you’re sorry...


Don't. Unless he knows and is ok being the scapegoat. Otherwise, he might have someone come up to him and ask and give permission bc he didn't know he should be the bad guy.
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amother




Crimson
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 5:50 pm
amother [ Seashell ] wrote:
Blame it on your husband! Tell your neighbors that he’s not comfortable letting people use your pool.

Then say you’re sorry...


I think op is a big girl.She doesn't need to cover herself under her husband!
I hate when ladies are saying "My husband"I know it's not him ,so just tell me no!?!!!
She can say :
"no WE don't want (for many reasons!)"
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lilies




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 5:52 pm
Learn to be comfortable with a simple "No, I don't feel comfortable..".
Don't give reasons or explanations unless the relationship is a comfortable one. Some people will try to reason or challenge you when you explain.
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Learning




 
 
 
 

Post  Tue, Jun 23 2020, 6:00 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
I’m one of the few people in my area that has a pool. How can I nicely tell neighbors I don’t lend it out? I don’t want the responsibility and [[b]/b]nervous about safety! Even when I’m with my kids, I’ll invite a relative like my sisters but not a neighbor with a bunch of kids. Don’t want anyone being mad at me!!

Say the bolded truth


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