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amother

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 10:06 am

If you both call each other and it’s mutual and good relationships all over. Dd lives a few hours plane away. How much is too much?

amother

Lime

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 10:11 am

When I was a newlywed I spoke to my mom every day (still do) I called her from
Work usually.

amother

Ruby

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 10:13 am

Wait for her to call you.
~3x wk is normal.

amother

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 10:17 am

amother [ Lime ] wrote:

When I was a newlywed I spoke to my mom every day (still do) I called her from
Work usually.

I wanted to know if it’s normal that we talk so much. We also talk every day and she calls me. Thanks Lime and Ruby.

amother

Lime

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 10:21 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I wanted to know if it’s normal that we talk so much. We also talk every day and she calls me. Thanks Lime and Ruby.

I think so. My mom has excellent boundaries though; she’ll text me rather than calling the landline if she has something else to say or ask me

amother

Chartreuse

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 10:25 am

I called/call my mother almost every day when my husband was out at mincha/maariv or night Seder. If I missed a day she didn’t call , Just assumed I was busy. It was perfect.

Dolly1

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 10:36 am

I call/ed my mom a few times a day. Obviously only when dh isn’t around. No boundary issues bh! We just love to shmooze!!

twizzlers1

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 11:00 am

I talked to my mom at least a few times a week for her entire life. when I got married my husband worked a full-time job and I was in school but that left plenty of time to talk to her. I made time to speak to my friends as well. It was still plenty of time to spend with my husband. Without kids during the first 9 months at least there's plenty of time. I think it's healthy for both spouses to have outside interests.

amother

Azure

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 11:06 am

I called mom every day...still do. Here and there I missed a day. I saved the longer shmoozes for when DH was out but please don’t tell me that none of you spoke one the phone to family while the other was home. When is DH supposed to catch up with his mother or siblings (double digit) between work and shul and shiur if he can’t talk at home? We all get the importance of spending quality alone time as newlyweds but using that as a reason not to connect with family is wrong.

amother

Chartreuse

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 12:04 pm

amother [ Azure ] wrote:

If we needed to call when the other was home we did, but we live in a pretty small apt and if I was on the phone in the kitchen he couldn’t focus on what he was doing 2 feet away in the dining room, and neither of us loved being locked in the bedroom to be on the phone, although we did it there was a reason to.

amother

Brunette

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 7:10 pm

I don't call newlyweds, period. Not my ds, not my dd, not my bffs. I wait for them to call me. I remember being a newlywed and the phone ringing at awkward moments. Even when we didn't answer, the phone ringing affected the mood, and not in a good way. Oh, and people would gripe "I tried calling and calling you and you didn't answer. " My stock response was "We're allowed to go out now and then, you know?" This was before mobile phones which thank G-d didn't exist at that time, so being out of the house was an accepted reason not to answer the phone.

notshanarishona

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 7:13 pm

1-2 x a week.

amother

Sun, Jul 26 2020, 7:16 pm

amother [ Brunette ] wrote:

How long do you consider the couple newlywed?

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