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Post  Tue, Sep 22 2020, 7:58 pm
My grandmother tried to bully me to name my first daughter after HER mother, even though my husband wanted to name after his mother. Not his great grandmother, his mother!! My grandmother felt entitled bc she had money and was generous over the years.

In the end we compromised and named for his mother plus a name that was kinda sorta related to my great grandmother but left nobody happy.
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Post  Tue, Sep 22 2020, 8:09 pm
Just tell your parents that you cannot decide the baby's name until it's born. After the baby is named, tell them that you went with the ruach hakodesh you were given about what name was right for the baby.

I remember talking to my grandmother about a potential name for our first, and that someone had said xyz about the name. She told me that when raising a child there are going to be lots of people who have opinions - you're their mother and the time to start advocating for your child is now. Go with what's right for them.

There's no need for your child to have a name that will cause their mother resentment every time she says it. What if it affects your attitude when you call her?
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Post  Tue, Sep 22 2020, 9:37 pm
What about when the pressure to name is after an actual parent/inlaw?

My dh's parent wasn't a good person to say the least. DH won't acknowledge that and he seems to have forgotten all wrongdoing/dysfunction/abuse that happened in the past. I can't get past it. I'm hesitant to try for another child just because I don't want to HAVE TO NAME after my dead inlaw.
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