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amother
Puce
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 Wed, Sep 09 2020, 11:35 am
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Absolutely not . A 10 year old is way too young to babysit .
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amother
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 11:41 am
No please don't. It can be traumatising.
I'd say for your scenario the child would have to be at least 12. During the day might be different.
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Rappel
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 11:54 am
Yes, I would, if there were a neighbor they could turn to at need.
If I want to go out in the evening and I'm not going far,I leave the baby monitor with a neighbor, and she is prepared to hop over if she hears the kids stirring. My children are very heavy, regular sleepers, so the system works well
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FranticFrummie
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 11:59 am
Never. Find a babysitter. One hour is cheap.
BTW, where is your DH? Is he not around for you at night? (Night seder, work, etc.?) That must be really hard.
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flowerpower
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:00 pm
| amother [ OP ] wrote: | | Awake but night time ok? |
Have her call a friend/ neighbor over and make sure your cordless is working well in case she needs to call you
It also depends where you live regarding safety- suburbs, condo...
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amother
Cerulean
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:08 pm
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What if c"v there was a fire? No.
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amother
Slategray
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:10 pm
| amother [ OP ] wrote: | | 10 and 6 yr old for approx 1 hr after they are already in bed/asleep |
No it’s against the law in most states
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sky
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:13 pm
I leave 10 and 8 yr old alone awake for 1 hr if I’m local. . They are very mature and are fine with it.
I wouldn’t leave them sleeping
But depends on the child
One of my children did not like it so I didn’t do it.
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Ruchel
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:30 pm
| Chayalle wrote: | No I would not.
I will also say, I babysat from a young age growing up. I think it was considered normal then. I was 9. I remember being terrified. I used to sit at the window watching the cars go by and crying, wanting my parents to come home. |
My kids beg me to "leave them in charge"
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mommyhood
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:31 pm
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I leave my 10 year old babysitting my younger kids when she's awake and we're local. If we're going out of town or we're staying out a long time or past her bedtime I get an older babysitter.
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heidi
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:41 pm
| Rappel wrote: | Yes, I would, if there were a neighbor they could turn to at need.
If I want to go out in the evening and I'm not going far,I leave the baby monitor with a neighbor, and she is prepared to hop over if she hears the kids stirring. My children are very heavy, regular sleepers, so the system works well |
I know this is a accepted in certain Israeli communities but please rethink this.
This is how unforeseen tragedies occur.
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amother
Firebrick
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:44 pm
| amother [ Slategray ] wrote: | | No it’s against the law in most states |
Google it, it's actually not
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amother
Bronze
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:48 pm
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I'd do it if the 10 year old was awake and I was 5 minutes away the whole time. Also, only if the 10 year old could deal if the younger one woke up.
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amother
Cerulean
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:50 pm
| amother [ Firebrick ] wrote: | | Google it, it's actually not |
In my state it is. A babysitter must be at least 13 for a charge under 9.
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carrot
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:54 pm
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I think I remember hearing that children tend to sleep through fire alarms... this would be a danger regardless of the maturity level of the ten-year-old.
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amother
Mustard
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 12:59 pm
| carrot wrote: | | I think I remember hearing that children tend to sleep through fire alarms... this would be a danger regardless of the maturity level of the ten-year-old. |
this, it's just too risky
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finprof
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 1:18 pm
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If the 10 year old is awake, its not late (like 7pm), he/she knows and trusts the neighbors and has access to a phone, then yes. Obviously it depends on the disposition of the child and the relationship between the siblings. DH and I disagree on these things often- I was a latchkey kid in a sketchy are , he had a STAM and lived in a nice suburb...
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amother
Magenta
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 1:22 pm
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tweety1
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 1:24 pm
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Never! Not even with a monitor
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Rappel
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 1:31 pm
| heidi wrote: | I know this is a accepted in certain Israeli communities but please rethink this.
This is how unforeseen tragedies occur. |
And what of the foreseen tragedies? 
In all seriousness - what unforseen tragedies are we discussing here?
Fire? I would never leave something burning in the house unattended, and all other chances of a fire are minute.
Terror attack? I lock my door, and the windows are barred.
Sudden illness? Again unlikely, thank G-d.
I don't leave so far that I couldn't come back quickly if my neighbor called. And it would be a very quiet, lonely, life if I didn't go out occasionally to a shiur, or go for a walk. With the neighbor listening in case anyone stirs, I feel safe to step away within the yishuv. And I do the same for her kids.
Obviously if I'm going away for a longer period (ex: a wedding), then I hire a babysitter.
And Frantic Frummie - no, not all of us have a DH at home. Lately, DH comes home to shower and then he's off again. I'm hoping things will slow down a little in the winter, but until then - I structure my life for sanity and joy.
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