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Is it inappropriate for a man to hold open a door for a woman other than his wife?
It is inappropriate
 2%  [ 8 ]
It is the right thing to do
 97%  [ 271 ]
Total Votes : 279


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Post  Tue, Sep 15 2020, 12:32 am
malki2 wrote:
No extra credit for you tonight.

Surprised
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amother




Coffee
 

Post  Tue, Sep 15 2020, 2:53 am
NotInNJMommy wrote:
A former member of my OOT community, a"h, who is not Chabad, told a story of his wife a"h, also not Chabad. Her parents lived in the same building as the Rebbe (not sure if he was Rebbe yet, but I don't think it would have affected this story) in CH decades ago. When she was engaged and also still living there, she took the trash outside to wherever it went outside the building. While doing so, the Rebbe followed by several bochurim entered the building, and the bochurim were closely following and the door closed behind them. As this young woman came back to the door to re-enter the building, the Rebbe turned around and went back to the door to hold it open for her. The woman and eventually her husband both described the Rebbe as being "a true gentleman".


True story. This was my aunt, a"h.
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amother




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Post  Tue, Sep 15 2020, 3:34 am
ExtraCredit wrote:
You only listed 2. What about the other 8?

That's the joke...10 is 2, written in binary...
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amother




Beige
 

Post  Tue, Sep 15 2020, 10:35 am
I think they should, thats just part of being human
When I had once broken a bone in my foot and had a cast and a knee scooter to help me get around. While trying to get into my building, my very chassidish neighbor just went in w/o helping me, even though I was struggling to get in, I was horrified! !!
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Post  Tue, Sep 15 2020, 10:21 pm
I voted inappropriate
The question is very vague
I agree that if you are struggling at the door or someone is literally a step ahead of you then they should be a mensch
But, in regular situations, where a random woman is walking and a man is walking next to her/behind her/right in front of her, then I think it’s inappropriate for him to open the door for her. I would hope that he doesn’t even notice her.
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amother




Oak
 

Post  Tue, Sep 15 2020, 10:26 pm
It seems that if a man holds a door open he is flirting inappropriately and if he doesn't hold the door he's an obnoxious human being. Summary: men should just stay away from doors.
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Post  Tue, Sep 15 2020, 10:28 pm
I was pushing a double stroller up a flight of stairs when a Chassidish rebbish yungerman approached me. I noticed his obvious dilemma - he wanted to help but didn't really want to hold the stroller together with me. He then surprised me when he said, "put the stroller down (I was still at the bottom of the staircase). I'll take it up for you."
I politely declined but was really touched. It's been many years but his balance in both bein adam lamakom and lachaveiro is still an inspiration.
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Post  Wed, Sep 16 2020, 8:53 am
Yeah most charedi don't "don"t dirve, separate K or don't look in the face of a boy"

There are chassidic DOCTORS
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