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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 6:55 am
You may be confusing which part of the vocabulary is the problem.
"My Sadie made a dessert for YT that should have been featured in a magazine" -- may be either legitimate maternal pride, or bragging, depending on whether you're talking to your BFF who knows that your next door neighbor is also named Sadie, or the checkout clerk in the market.
"My Izzie got kicked out of that yeshiva" is probably LH on several fronts.
You see? It depends on context. Using "my" before a child's name could be loving, it could provide a real differentiation so the listener understands who you're talking about (my DS is best friends with a boy who has the same first name. When I talk to his mom, we always say "my" or "your", for obvious reasons).
Or it could be a cultural way of speaking.
But in and of itself, it's neutral or sweet. What makes it bragging or whatever is the rest of the sentence.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 7:17 am
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 7:23 am
It's an annoying way of talking, but I can't put my finger on why.
Either say "my son" or "my son, Yossi" or "Yossi, my son" or "Yossi" - if I know who you're talking about.
it's just annoying. It's kind of coddling.
It annoys me even when people say it about their 3 year old, not just about their adult child.
I think people say it when they're not quite talking with a close family member, so they can't just say "Yossi", but on the other hand, they're not talking so formally that they would just say "my son" - so it kind of comes out that way.
Like when you're talking to another mother in the park, or a colleague.
But it grates, I agree with OP.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 7:33 am
Has anyone seen the old British TV show "Keeping Up Appearances"?
They were always saying "Our Rose always had a way with men." or "Our Daisy is very outgoing." I think that "My Daniel" or whatever is very much in that same manner of speaking.
It's a bit old fashioned, a bit posh, and very sweet. It sounds odd to someone who didn't grow up watching a lot of BBC TV.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 8:04 am
amother [ Khaki ] wrote: | So... my extended family is quiet large and a lot of the kids and aunts and cousins have the same name.
So I would say "my mordechai" when talking about my son. Meaning: my son, not my brother or uncle or cousin or nephew. Its just an easy way to reference without using last names (which doesn't always work) or getting confusing.
Since I do this a lot I end up doing it when I'm with other people also. |
Me too.
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Reality


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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 8:59 am
amother [ Khaki ] wrote: | So... my extended family is quiet large and a lot of the kids and aunts and cousins have the same name.
So I would say "my mordechai" when talking about my son. Meaning: my son, not my brother or uncle or cousin or nephew. Its just an easy way to reference without using last names (which doesn't always work) or getting confusing.
Since I do this a lot I end up doing it when I'm with other people also. |
Me three!
I also have a very good friend whose husband has the same name as mine. I also sometimes say my _____ if it isn't clear who I'm referring to.
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zaq


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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 9:08 am
Boy oh boy, some of you people must have reeeaaalllly dull lives if you have the leisure and energy to get bent out of shape about something so innocuous. I suggest you all go out and start volunteering with the homeless who have AIDS or something--you need something productive to occupy your minds.
In most places there is more than one kid running around with the same given name, so you say MY Motty to distinguish him from YOUR Motty or my sister's Motty or the Motty across the hall. Secondly, you might do this to specify which of your kids it is. 'My Motty' instead of 'my son' because I have several sons. Sure you could say 'my son Motty' but why is that necessary? In any case, I've never heard it used as other than in an affectionate way. Maternal affection is "coddling"? Halevai all children should be so "coddled."
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 9:16 am
It irks me a little. I always just say 'my son' or just his name.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 9:16 am
I associate that way of talking with older distant relatives.
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