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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 11:05 am
amother [ OP ] wrote: | I was talking about women who know each other well, no need to say 'my' at all. Mordechai alone should be enough, the other person knows it's her son she's talking about. | Maybe she's so used to saying it because there are so many Mordechai's in the extended family. So she's talking about 'her' Mordechai, and not her sisters or sister in laws or uncle Mordechai or whatever.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 12:08 pm
salt wrote: | It's an annoying way of talking, but I can't put my finger on why.
Either say "my son" or "my son, Yossi" or "Yossi, my son" or "Yossi" - if I know who you're talking about.
it's just annoying. It's kind of coddling.
It annoys me even when people say it about their 3 year old, not just about their adult child.
I think people say it when they're not quite talking with a close family member, so they can't just say "Yossi", but on the other hand, they're not talking so formally that they would just say "my son" - so it kind of comes out that way.
Like when you're talking to another mother in the park, or a colleague.
But it grates, I agree with OP. |
Omg this literally one of my pet peeves!!
I cant stand when people say My Malka or My Yossi...it shows this level of possessiveness that is unhealthy and also is just an annoying way of speaking.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 12:15 pm
Yes it’s annoying. It irks me too. But not enough to remember 3 minutes later or open a thread about it. But now that you mention it I can totally relate.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 12:16 pm
amother [ Khaki ] wrote: | So... my extended family is quiet large and a lot of the kids and aunts and cousins have the same name.
So I would say "my mordechai" when talking about my son. Meaning: my son, not my brother or uncle or cousin or nephew. Its just an easy way to reference without using last names (which doesn't always work) or getting confusing.
Since I do this a lot I end up doing it when I'm with other people also. |
This is why my kids who have names that other family members have, all have different nicknames (or are called differently) than those with the same name. For example, let’s say there are a lot of Sara’s, and mine is called sari or sarala
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 12:16 pm
I’m soo guilty of this haha.
I sometimes refer to my son “my Tzali”.
Before he was named I called him “my tzadikel”
For my son I use that because I guess I’m very very attached to my baby and I find it hard to have him away from me. He’s also my first baby and I guess I’m proud of him for being my baby haha. He’s also my first baby after a miscarriage and I had a scary pregnancy and he was also in the NICU for a few days.
I’m proud to call him my Tzali.
I have a friend who’s husband has the same name as my husband so I refer to “my (husbands name)” so we can tell who we are talking about.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 12:19 pm
I laughed at this thread because in my phone contacts people are listed as who they belong to and not who the are lol. I have “My David and Hannah’s David etc lol
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 1:00 pm
amother [ Denim ] wrote: | I also hate it when people so this in terms of objects.
What kind of mixer do you have and do you like it?
Well I love My Bosch. Its great.
You only love YOUR bosch?. Not all Bosch mixers in general?
Just say I love THE Bosch.
When people say MY it sounds like major bragging and possessiveness. Its also extremely rude when speaking to someone who is single or poor or any category where they dont own those things. |
I actually always say that I like my Kitchenaid. Are you aware that there are many different models and there is variation? If I would know my model number by heart I guess I could say I like the Kitchenaid XYZ1234 or whatever but I think it sounds more normal to say that I like my Kitchenaid. If someone then asks which I have I then look it up online.
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Mon, Sep 21 2020, 3:56 pm
I only say "my ______" if I'm talking about 2 of my children to someone in my family because there are a lot of cousins with those names.
For example, my Chaim got a new bike would mean that my Chaim got a bike, not my sister or my brother's Chaim.
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