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Poll: Do you work full time? PT? Stay home?...
I work more then full time (over 40 hours)  
 7%  [ 30 ]
I work full time (36 -40 hrs)  
 22%  [ 97 ]
I work part time (15-36 hrs)  
 34%  [ 144 ]
I work very part time (under 15 hrs)  
 10%  [ 46 ]
My hours vary by a lot (explain/ write amounts below)  
 2%  [ 10 ]
I stay at home  
 17%  [ 72 ]
I'm unemployed and looking for a job  
 3%  [ 14 ]
I'm retired  
 0%  [ 2 ]
other (please explain below)  
 1%  [ 7 ]
Total Votes : 422



amother
Firebrick


 

Post Wed, Sep 23 2020, 4:04 pm
amother [ Ivory ] wrote:
Working mom is the hardest job ever. I work 32h/ week which is the hours my kids are in school. I come home exhausted . I don't want to do this. But I have to. Paying bills anyone? Bh my DH helps a lot but I wish I didn't have to send out my babies so early and for such a long day. Can't Believe It


Yes I so relate. I work in public school so its a full time job but thank goodness for summer vacation and winter break. I hate sending my babies out to someone else the whole day. I wish my husband would make enough parnasa for us so that I would not have to work full time (or for the insurance benefits for that matter) but alas. I am thankful that he is simply working. Even for 12$ an hr.
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amother
Wheat


 

Post Wed, Sep 23 2020, 7:32 pm
amother [ Brown ] wrote:
I work full time and you are probably right that you have a much easier and pleasant life, but I find your comment very offensive.


I wrote it in response to this post:

“I am a stay at home mom, working physically and emotionally much harder than all of you together.
Is there such a thing as a non-working mother???“
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amother
Magenta


 

Post Wed, Sep 23 2020, 8:01 pm
I'm a full time SAHM.
Now with a toddler home I like it.
Though for the past few years I work a in the matzo bakery, for around 3 months, and really like the short time change.
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chocolatecake




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Sep 23 2020, 8:29 pm
I work 28 hours a week. 9-4 Monday-Thursday. Those days are very full and hectic. But I don’t work at all on Friday and that is how I keep my sanity!
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amother
Brunette


 

Post Wed, Sep 23 2020, 11:21 pm
Wow, I’m amazed that only 30% of people work full time or more than full time. I work part time (24 hours per week), and there’s almost no one in my community who doesn’t work full time and is free to get together during the week. I end up spending time with whoever is on maternity leave but it’s tough to form lasting relationships this way.

(Obviously, with Corona, I’m not seeing anyone now but this was the situation pre-Covid and I’m hoping we’ll return to being able to hang out in person again some day.)
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amother
Seashell


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 12:24 am
For context, you might want to add in if you are married and what your husband's working hours are.

A husband who works 80 hours a week married to a wife who stays home is not the same as two spouses working 40 hours each, which is not the same as one unemployed and one part time.

And of course a single mother supporting a family on her own is something else entirely.

(Edited some typos.)
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chanchy123




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 12:47 am
I work 30 hours, that’s six hours a day - pre corona I’d add about 2-3 hours of commute every single day so it felt like full time. Now I work from home so I really feel the freedom and flexibility of a part time job.
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imaima




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 2:27 am
amother [ Puce ] wrote:
I am a stay at home mom, working physically and emotionally much harder than all of you together.
Is there such a thing as a non-working mother???


Ehm... working moms mother their kids, AFTER finishing their "for money" work...
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amother
cornflower


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 2:27 am
Single mom .
Work 21 hours a week and spend 7 hours a week commuting .
I feel like I work full time plus plus .
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Raisin




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 2:34 am
imaima wrote:
Ehm... working moms mother their kids, AFTER finishing their "for money" work...


But if they have young kids not of school age, they are outsourcing a big chunk of the work to babysitters or childcare workers.

During Corona, women (and involved fathers) who have to work full time and look after little kids find it almost impossible and it is unsustainable in the long term. Also tough when homeschooling younger kids, or supervising zoom classes etc.
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amother
Navy


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 2:47 am
amother [ Puce ] wrote:
I am a stay at home mom, working physically and emotionally much harder than all of you together.


WTH? This is so rude and offensive. I don't easily get angered but you know literally NOTHING about my life or that of any of the other posters in here!

For what it's worth, I'm a junior doctor and I regularly work a 96-hour week (2 overnight call shifts plus my regular daytime hours), in addition to running a home, caring for an elderly parent (I'm an only child) and raising my kids, one of whom is autistic with very heavy additional needs.

I don't think you have the faintest idea what it is like "working physically and emotionally much harder than all of you together"!

You need to take a good hard look at yourself and give your head a wobble! Seriously.
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amother
Maroon


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 2:59 am
I am now retired after working for 34 years. I started out part time and was full time for at least 25 years. I had to work due to finances. The best part of being retired is that I don't have to rush home for Shabbos and can devote Friday to getting ready for Shabbos.
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amother
Navy


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 7:19 am
amother [ Maroon ] wrote:
I am now retired after working for 34 years. I started out part time and was full time for at least 25 years. I had to work due to finances. The best part of being retired is that I don't have to rush home for Shabbos and can devote Friday to getting ready for Shabbos.


Sounds lovely! I'm looking forward to the day I can reduce my hours slightly and have Fridays off Smile
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amother
Mustard


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 7:38 am
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Chaya123




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 8:22 am
I work 30 hours per week, which is considered full time.
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amother
Wine


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 9:34 am
amother [ Puce ] wrote:
I am a stay at home mom, working physically and emotionally much harder than all of you together.
Is there such a thing as a non-working mother???


Disgusting comment and way to throw guilt onto the pile of things I have to take care of. (Because what mom doesn't have some guilt? I know I am doing what I have to for my family.) I mother my kids and work full time. So I do probably almost everything you do PLUS a full time job. I don't have a nanny. Oh yeah, I am also an essential worker saving lives. I am the only one who can do my job where I work and it is critical to get the clients the lifesaving care they desperately need. (Niche field so can't be more specific, I don't know any other frum women who do what I do).
Yes, I grocery shop, make sure my kids have clean clothing, uniforms, shoes, supplies. I do laundry daily. I make their appointments, trying to stay on top of pediatrician appointments, specialists, therapies they may need. PTA and school events. I kiss their boo boos and pack their lunches with mitzvah notes included. I teach them how to roller skate and we do crafts together. I talk to them about their day.

And yes, while they were home in the spring I helped get them onto zoom for each class. (I was able to telework for some of this time). They didn't go to camp either this summer because of COVID 19 and at risk family so I got them activities, educational stuff, watched them while I worked... I probably wasn't as efficient as I could have been but my work understands and as long as I get it done they are ok.

How do I do all of this? I don't sleep and I don't get "me time". No gym, exercise, manicures, coffee dates with friends, shiurim or social events... (Even pre covid).
This isn't a mommy wars thing... I don't have a choice in all of this. I also don't cook fancy meals or do tablescapes. To each their own and we each need to do what we need to or are required to or want to.
But don't say you do more work than me. ALL mommies work. But working mommies have 2 full time jobs.
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amother
Linen


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 10:06 am
I work full time, 8.5-10 hours per day. Then I work a second job, up to another 20 more hours a week. Yes it's all work from home, but I am on the phone/video meetings a lot of the time, with heavy production expectations.

Hubby is in college and learning a bit and helps with the kids and housework, but I still need to do some housework and spend time with my kids.

No, I don't get more than a few hours of sleep each night. I'm exhausted. But I do what I need to...

When I do dream, I dream of winning the lotto so I can spend more quality time with my family. But I'm also super grateful to Hashem that I can work - and from home - and that I actually have work now.
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amother
Cobalt


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 10:09 am
I work full time (40 hours, from home currently but in an office if the pandemic passes). I'm also in graduate school part time, which takes another ~5 hours of classes and ~5 hours of homework a week. Husband works full time but always from home.

We have no kids yet. I'd really like to continue with graduate school to get a PhD but if we do have kids would probably stop after my MS but continue working.
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amother
Cobalt


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 10:17 am
amother [ Navy ] wrote:
WTH? This is so rude and offensive. I don't easily get angered but you know literally NOTHING about my life or that of any of the other posters in here!

For what it's worth, I'm a junior doctor and I regularly work a 96-hour week (2 overnight call shifts plus my regular daytime hours), in addition to running a home, caring for an elderly parent (I'm an only child) and raising my kids, one of whom is autistic with very heavy additional needs.

I don't think you have the faintest idea what it is like "working physically and emotionally much harder than all of you together"!

You need to take a good hard look at yourself and give your head a wobble! Seriously.


Women criticizing other women's working/non-working status used to be a pet peeve of mine too. I've since come to the realization that many of these comments stem from people's insecurity about their own choices. If you like your choice and think it's the right choice for you, why waste time judging other people's choices?
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amother
Navy


 

Post Thu, Sep 24 2020, 10:06 pm
amother [ Cobalt ] wrote:
Women criticizing other women's working/non-working status used to be a pet peeve of mine too. I've since come to the realization that many of these comments stem from people's insecurity about their own choices. If you like your choice and think it's the right choice for you, why waste time judging other people's choices?


Yes. I do think maybe Imamother Puce is a troll who just came here to stir the pot and be deliberately provocative ☹
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