Do your kids ask permission?

amother

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 2:51 pm

Do your kids need to ask you before they grab something from cabinets or fridge? or if they see some goodies on the counter would they ask you before if they can have? or everything is free and open to everyone whenever?

ExtraCredit

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 2:52 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Up to 10-11 years old they ask, after that all is free!

amother

Navy

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 2:53 pm

Yes they need to ask. They do know that certain foods will get a yes all the time, mostly vegtables and fruits. And other food will probably be a yes unless it's right before meals. My kids are under 10. Maybe when they are older things will change.

mha3484

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 2:54 pm

If its in the house they can eat it. If they want a fruit or vegetable cut up for them like a pepper or cucumber I might say I need that for dinner please take something else but otherwise I dont buy food I dont want eaten.

amother

Beige

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 2:54 pm

Everything is free and open and easy access.
Signed, a Montessori Mama

Success10

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 2:56 pm

I used to think they asked first. Then one day I started taking inventory.... Ah, well.

ExtraCredit

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 2:56 pm

Success10 wrote:

I used to think they asked first. Then one day I started taking inventory.... Ah, well.

notshanarishona

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 2:59 pm

depends on their age. I would think until around 7-10 they ask.

avrahamama

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:12 pm

amother [ Beige ] wrote:

Everything is free and open and easy access.
Signed, a Montessori Mama

Same. Except for the stuff that is purposely out of reach. (Candy, and certain cookies)

amother

Beige

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:13 pm

avrahamama wrote:

Same. Except for the stuff that is purposely out of reach. (Candy, and certain cookies)

And the alcohol Very Happy

amother

Rose

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:16 pm

They half ask, half tell, half (yes a 3rd half) hope I don't notice. The youngest is 17.

happinessseeker

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:19 pm

amother [ Rose ] wrote:

They half ask, half tell, half (yes a 3rd half) hope I don't notice. The youngest is 17.

17+ and they need to ask before taking a snack?! I’m shocked

professor

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:19 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Wow just a few minutes ago my 4 year old wanted some candy. I said not until you eat up your supper. I turn away and he climbed into the cabinet and had candy! Without eating what's on his plate first!

My older kids would never dare! Can't Believe It

amother

Rose

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:29 pm

happinessseeker wrote:

17+ and they need to ask before taking a snack?! I’m shocked

It's more of can I eat this or is it being saved for something. It is a curtesy, less of a permission.

behappy2

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:30 pm

For candy or cookies they need to ask. For fruits or vegies I need to beg Very Happy

happinessseeker

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:49 pm

amother [ Rose ] wrote:

It's more of can I eat this or is it being saved for something. It is a curtesy, less of a permission.

Got it

Blessing1

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:53 pm

They don't ask for permission per se, they just make sure with my that they can have what they're taking. I think it's basic manners. They say "ma I'm taking a cucumber/snack/yogurt....."
My younger kids do ask me if they can have snack or fruit.

Stars

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:56 pm

Almost everything is open for taking. I’m in charge of what comes in to my house and if there’s something I need and/or don’t want anyone to take I put it in a black bag and stuff it in the veggie drawer. No one looks there.

Notsobusy

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 3:59 pm

If I buy something I don't want them to eat, I either tell them or hide it. They ask me before they take real treats, like pickles and ice cream. Everything else is available for the taking.

silverlining3

Mon, Nov 23 2020, 4:15 pm

Under 10 and they mostly ask. Often it's while holding already what they want, hoping for a yes. Sometimes they'll take even I said no-then it's up to me to decide if I wanna fight them or not ha