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| Ema of 4 wrote: | | That’s not very nice. She came here asking if something is an issue, because it’s not something she grew up with. |
It was harsh, but I hope op has mentors that help her make sure she doesn’t take things too far, with good intentions.
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Tue, Dec 22 2020, 4:02 pm
| amother [ OP ] wrote: | One of the worst cases of unnecessarily making assumptions!
If I suffered from BT syndrome, I'd just have told the grandparents to not let him listen to toys and recordings with girls singing. Instead, I wanted to educate myself. So, I came on here to ask a question because I didn't fully understand the halacha, the purpose behind the halacha, the hashkafic issues involved, etc. Now that I have my answer, I'm good.
I know a lot of BTs who suffer from BT syndrome. BTs syndrome is just imposing unnecessary rules without even taking the time to learn the actual rules and the reasoning behind them. |
Exactly.
Good for you.
Enjoy your baby. May he be a source of nachat to H, you, Am Yisrael, and HIMSELF!
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Tue, Dec 22 2020, 4:18 pm
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His morah will be singing with him in a few years.
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Wed, Dec 23 2020, 6:34 am
| amother [ Denim ] wrote: | | I think your hashkafa question is a great question. It's why some communities switch girls to skirts at 3 because how do you explain the sudden switch at 9 or 12. I would say stop when you think he's old enough to understand the person singing is a girl. I think that would be close to 9 either way. |
AFAIK, the reason 3 year olds wear skirts are because boys aren't allowed to touch/hear sing/have yichud with/see untznius girls over 3.
Even though a girl is allowed to do all those with a boy 3-9.
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Wed, Dec 23 2020, 5:14 pm
| dancingqueen wrote: | | It was harsh, but I hope op has mentors that help her make sure she doesn’t take things too far, with good intentions. |
OP is asking, right? That means she’s looking for guidance. Hopefully she doesn’t get all her guidance from here, and in real life has someone with whom she can discuss things.
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