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amother




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Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 6:25 pm
y now during covid where you could make it much cheaper. Why?
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amother




Apricot
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 6:52 pm
Everyone spends on things that are important to them.
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amother




Chartreuse
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 6:55 pm
In what capacity are you asking?

MYOB
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amother




Amethyst
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 6:58 pm
I enjoy making beautiful simchas.
I want to give my guests a great time.
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amother




Papaya
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 7:02 pm
It’s reality.... everything costs money.
Some will do with a little more and some with a little less, but bottom line it’s alot of money.
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ddmom




 
 
 
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 7:35 pm
Some ppl could afford it so why not if they like it?
Unless you're asking about why ppl spend so much when they can't afford it?
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Chayalle




 
 
 
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 7:40 pm
I've heard that the weddings are not really cheaper now even with COVID.
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amother




Brunette
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 7:40 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
y now during covid where you could make it much cheaper. Why?


Because the need to show off specially for insecure people, never goes away.
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keym




 
 
 
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 7:54 pm
Chayalle wrote:
I've heard that the weddings are not really cheaper now even with COVID.


I believe that.
My son's friends who made Corona bar mitzvas spent more than non Corona.
Finding a location, renting tents, tables, chairs, individually wrapped.
The cheaper caterers have higher minimum amounts.
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amother




Ruby
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 7:58 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
y now during covid where you could make it much cheaper. Why?


COVID Weddings are a fortune. Tent rentals are expensive, kitchen setup with warmers and no proper setup. Renting all furniture. Setup and cleanup. Moving props. You pay WAY more per person and overall.
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amother




Aqua
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 8:05 pm
If I could redo my wedding I would have made it in the backyard. Just immediate family. A meal inside. 10 yrs too late. Oh well LOL
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number




 
 
 
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 8:06 pm
Like others said, COVID style isn’t cheaper. Just safer.
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amother




Brown
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 8:11 pm
amother [ Aqua ] wrote:
If I could redo my wedding I would have made it in the backyard. Just immediate family. A meal inside. 10 yrs too late. Oh well LOL

Would you do it in the backyard for your children? Be honest
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amother




Copper
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 8:20 pm
I am also curious, what the benefit is to spend tens of thousands more, when you could have a beautiful wedding for less( besides guest bringing check books to the simcha). Is it to make the Kallah happy, or happier?. Is it because the parents want a nice wedding? Because people want to add expenses without doing a chesbone or cost benefit analysis. Because they have enough money for down payment and everything else they need and want so why not? Is it to deter divorce after spending so much money? Really just curious.
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amother




Lilac
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 8:47 pm
Why not Fargin and let everyone make their own best decision -
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amother




Linen
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 8:50 pm
amother [ Brown ] wrote:
Would you do it in the backyard for your children? Be honest
I would, if the bride, groom and groom’s family would all agree to it.
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amother




Coral
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 8:53 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
y now during covid where you could make it much cheaper. Why?


Take it from me, NOTHING IS CHEAPER. NOTHING.

That wedding for 100 is the same exact price as the Lakewood wedding for 450.

And everyone needs to make a parnassah these days, let's spread the wealth around! It's not like the money will be delivered to your doorstep instead.
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amother




Natural
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 8:56 pm
We made a small outdoor corona bar mitzvah. It was just as expensive as the larger bar mitzvahs we made previously. The caterers charge for the job and not per person and you need to rent the tent and tables, chairs, etc.
outdoor weddings people had to rent fancy versions of port o potties. You can’t have guests with no where to use the facilities and you can’t exactly put down a gross port a potty with no sink.
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avrahamama




 
 
 
 

Post Tue, Dec 29 2020, 10:09 pm
amother [ Brunette ] wrote:
Because the need to show off specially for insecure people, never goes away.


I used to think like that too. Now that I see my friends business suffering. Caterers. Venues. Flowers. Etc. Dressmakers. DJs, Chazans photographers

So many people with no or significantly diminishing livelihood.

I don't even care anymore. If you have the money to spend. Can help a small business. Can do it b'shalom in your home. Do it. Enjoy.



As long as the simcha is a true source of simcha and dveikut to H. You can have 30,000 different varieties of miniatures and a smoked meat bar that looks its from the flintstones. Spread the dough! Spread the joy.

I'll continue to have my small sweet holy smachot that are within my means and feel just as rich as the machers ;-)
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amother




Babyblue
 

Post Fri, Apr 16 2021, 5:18 pm
amother [ Aqua ] wrote:
If I could redo my wedding I would have made it in the backyard. Just immediate family. A meal inside. 10 yrs too late. Oh well LOL



We looked into making a backyard wedding, and surprised that it isn't much cheaper than at a hall. We have to rent a tent, table, chairs, linens, dance floor, and food and staff to serve. Your house becomes a wreck, as well as your grass. Is it worth it?
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