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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 6:35 am
So here is the situation.
Without getting into specifics, we were looking to hire someone to do some work for us. Found the woman to be curt, rude, cold, unfriendly, know it all attitude, made me feel stupid for asking questions. All done over the phone. Felt very uncomfortable with her.
Went on to find someone else the exact polar opposite for exact same price. Helpful, understanding, answered questions, a pleasure to deal with, hired that person.
Rude person number one follows up via email to see if we will go through whatever we wanted to hire her for.
Do I ignore her emails? Tell her we went with someone else? (I would never tell her why we did, btw)
Bottom line is she lost the potential job because of her horrible attitude.
WWYD?
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 6:37 am
You should tell her you went with someone else. It's rude to not give an answer at all.
You don't need to provide a detailed explanation.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 6:38 am
Of course tell her that you hired someone else.
Not because she "deserves" it, but because it's the right thing to do.
And if course don't go into why. Not your problem.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 6:45 am
amother [ OP ] wrote: | To be more specific, can I answer her email by simply stating that "thank you, but we are not interested at this time?"
Is that enough?
I don't have to tell her we went with someone else, right? No point in making her feel bad.. |
If you say "we are not interested at this time," it sounds like you may be interested at a later time, which you clearly are not.
Just tell her you went with another candidate. What's the problem?
Most job applicants appreciate and rightfully expect a straight answer regarding their application status.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 6:46 am
First of all, I find your title misleading since you did not get an actual service from her. It was just an inquiry.
You were not treated badly yet since you did nkt become a customer. It is proper to follow up and say that you decided against using her services at this point. I don't think they will ask why.
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imasinger


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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 6:58 am
amother [ OP ] wrote: | To be more specific, can I answer her email by simply stating that "thank you, but we are not interested at this time?"
Is that enough?
I don't have to tell her we went with someone else, right? No point in making her feel bad.. |
I think it's okay, and maybe even good, for her to know you hired someone else. If she doesn't feel bad, how's she going to start the process of thinking about her social skills problem? This isn't your concern to solve, but neither is it your concern to protect her fragile ego.
"Thank you for your interest. Our position has been filled; we'll keep your resume on file", or some variation, is a standard response.
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zaq


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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 8:55 am
DrMom wrote: | You should tell her you went with someone else. It's rude to not give an answer at all.
You don't need to provide a detailed explanation. |
This.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 9:54 am
I think something along the lines "thank you but we are no longer interested in the service".
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 2:58 pm
I would let them know that you hired someone else. It is not right to leave them hanging or unsure as to where they stand in the application/hiring process. No reason to state why- you don't have the responsibility to fix that person/company. Also, depending on who you hired, saying why you chose A over B could give you potential liability. I don't work in the field so obviously consult an attorney. But if you hired a male instead of female or one race/ethnicity over another might be able to claim that "personality" is just a code word for discrimination.
Short and clear.
"Thank you for your interest in this position. The role has been filled at this time. Have a wonderful day".
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amother


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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 5:16 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | So here is the situation.
Without getting into specifics, we were looking to hire someone to do some work for us. Found the woman to be curt, rude, cold, unfriendly, know it all attitude, made me feel stupid for asking questions. All done over the phone. Felt very uncomfortable with her.
Went on to find someone else the exact polar opposite for exact same price. Helpful, understanding, answered questions, a pleasure to deal with, hired that person.
Rude person number one follows up via email to see if we will go through whatever we wanted to hire her for.
Do I ignore her emails? Tell her we went with someone else? (I would never tell her why we did, btw)
Bottom line is she lost the potential job because of her horrible attitude.
WWYD? |
Are you kidding? Tell her!
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