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Where is lecht in you house? |
On the table , chassisish |
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20% |
[ 55 ] |
On the table , not chassidish |
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7% |
[ 19 ] |
On the side of the dining room, chassidish |
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12% |
[ 34 ] |
On the side of the dining room, not chassidish |
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45% |
[ 122 ] |
Somewhere else, chassidish |
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1% |
[ 4 ] |
Somewhere else, not chassidish |
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12% |
[ 33 ] |
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 1:29 pm
avrahamama wrote: | Next to dining table on a floating corner shelf nice and high for the kids. |
Same here
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 2:57 pm
ShishKabob wrote: | My mother has it on the table. We have it on a buffet on the side by the wall. It works out better because its safer for the kids and also makes it easier to clear the tablecloth and change it. Chassidish |
Same, except for the Chassidish.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 2:58 pm
No idea what this subject has to do with being Chassidish or not.
Mine is right in front of me at the end of the table opposite my husband who sits oiven oon at the head of the table, as per the other thread so we have clarification here. I don't think I would feel that it is safe on a side cabinet, I'd be afraid of the fire traveling to the walls. I don't notice any extra anxiety at our table in regard to the avoiding the lachter or making sure it doesn't move. It's just there, on a tray the same way a painting would be on a wall I suppose.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 3:02 pm
nchr wrote: | No idea what this subject has to do with being Chassidish or not.
Mine is right in front of me at the end of the table (and my husband sits oiven oon at the head of the table opposite me, as per the other thread so we have clarification here lol). I don't think I would feel that it is safe on a side cabinet, I'd be afraid of the fire traveling to the walls. I don't notice any extra anxiety at our table in regard to the avoiding the lachter or making sure it doesn't move. It's just there, on a tray the same way a painting would be on a wall I suppose. |
For me, the stress is the tablecloth. We have an open floor plan, and I can't close the dining room doors.
It's too easy for a crawling 10 month old to yank the tablecloth while I'm helping the 3 year old in the bathroom.
The shelves, and sideboards don't have lowish hanging cloth that can be reached by a baby or toddler.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 3:45 pm
Fire hazard is my #1 reason for not putting candles on the table. Well, no, TBH reason #1 is that both my mother and grandmother kept theirs on a sideboard, so that's where my candles "want"to be. I didn't even have to think about it when I got my first apt.
So fire hazard is #2, not enough room for the food is #3, not being able to see is #4, not being able to properly clean the table after the meal is #5. And I guess #6 is halachic: if you put candles on the table before Shabbat, the table becomes a "basis" (pronounced bahSEES) or base, for the candles and therefore may not be moved all Shabbat. The halachic fix for this problem is to also put the challot on the table before Shabbat, so the table is now a base for the challot, which ARE allowed to be moved, as well as for the candles. Not that we move the table very often, but I like to keep all my options open, and erev Shabbat prep is complicated enough without my adding a completely unnecessary task to the works. So, no candles on the table.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 3:46 pm
In the middle of the mantel piece on top of the fake fire place.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 3:55 pm
moonstone wrote: | I never knew that people put the candles on the dining table. That sounds very inconvenient. I put mine in a bay window in the living room. | Why inconvenient? I grew up with it that way. And both of my grandmothers did it that way as does my mother in law.
If there is room either in the middle or at the end, why not?
We only dont light on the table in the summer because we have a ceiling fan over the table. We then light on our kitchn island, but its all open plan so we can see the candles from the dinning table.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 3:57 pm
nchr wrote: | No idea what this subject has to do with being Chassidish or not.
Mine is right in front of me at the end of the table opposite my husband who sits oiven oon at the head of the table, as per the other thread so we have clarification here. I don't think I would feel that it is safe on a side cabinet, I'd be afraid of the fire traveling to the walls. I don't notice any extra anxiety at our table in regard to the avoiding the lachter or making sure it doesn't move. It's just there, on a tray the same way a painting would be on a wall I suppose. | Meaning you are at the opposite end of the table to your husband and the candles are directly in front of you? Dont they bother to be able to see?
Also, what does the yiddish you wrote above mean?
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 5:35 pm
Chassidish, it's on a side board.
I grew up with it on the table. It was way too stressful. "Don't push the table, careful not to touch the candles...".
We bought a side board instead of a cabinet so that we have where to light the candles.
My grandmother also lit on a side board and not on the table, so I don't think it's a chassidish Vs not chassidish thing.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 7:39 pm
On table and so does my mom. Not really stressful bh.
My mil has it on a side table And I think it's beautiful.
Maybe when we'll have the place for a side table I'll switch over.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 8:38 pm
I voted dining room not Chassidish. I really light in the living room, but it’s clearly visible from the dining room. I can’t imagine being comfortable with them on the table, but maybe our table is too small.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 9:19 pm
shabbatiscoming wrote: | Meaning you are at the opposite end of the table to your husband and the candles are directly in front of you? Dont they bother to be able to see?
Also, what does the yiddish you wrote above mean? |
There is room for my plate so not immediately in front of me. I guess I'm just used to it but yes if I look directly in front of me I would see my lachter and not my husband, but I can see all of the children just fine which is the most important part. This is how my mother has it too. I'm not engaging in conversation with my husband at the seuda and you can hear someone without seeing them or just move slightly left or right.
It means the head of the table.
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Wed, Jan 13 2021, 10:16 pm
shabbatiscoming wrote: | Why inconvenient? I grew up with it that way. And both of my grandmothers did it that way as does my mother in law.
If there is room either in the middle or at the end, why not?
We only dont light on the table in the summer because we have a ceiling fan over the table. We then light on our kitchn island, but its all open plan so we can see the candles from the dinning table. |
Because you can't change the tablecloth in the event of a spill or stain, and need to place food platters around the candlesticks. I'd also be afraid of knocking them over when serving food.
We light on a kitchen counter. We can see it from the dining room. And the living room, for that matter.
We have a low counter between the dining room and living room, and that would be ideal, but I was always afraid the kids would knock it over. We know several families whose homes were severely damaged by Shabbat candles, so I want to be as safe as possible.
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