Gift of candlestick for my DIL for new baby

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motherof5

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 5:20 am

HI, I am beyond excited that my son and DIL are expecting my first grandchild, IY'H! When they got married I bought my DIL a set of silver candlesticks, and I was wondering if it would be appropriate for me to buy them a single smaller candlestick on the occasion of the birth of their child. Is this something that is done? and, any suggestions of where in Brooklyn to go to buy one small silver candlestick that will not break the bank? Thank you so much!!

jflower

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 5:42 am

Why not ask her if this is something she would like?

amother

cornflower

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 5:45 am

Beshaa tova! I would ask first, because she may not necessarily add a candle.

amother

Bronze

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 5:51 am

very nice idea I know a few people that did this, however would you be able to do this for her future children? otherwise I think its a shame...

amother

Lime

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 9:28 am

I know of people whio do this, but it is more often a gift from the husband than from the mother in law.

If you do, the most common option is a half size version of her original pair of candlesticks, or a similar design. If you go back to where you originally bought the candlesticks, they should be able to advise you.

As someone said above, if you do this, make suire you are able to maintain it for further grandchildren, or it may breed resentment in your next daughter in law. By the time you have a bunch of married children, it could prove an expensive habit.

Ellie7

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 10:01 am

My in-laws did this for me (though they did discuss it before doing it) and it was SO thoughtful.

HonesttoGod

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 10:32 am

My in laws did that for me too.
When my second child was born my mil asked my husband to take a picture of the candlesticks she got for me when I got married and she went to a silver store and bought two small matching candlesticks which I still use to this day. I was very touched.

motherof5

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 2:30 pm

thanks to all for your responses! I know it is probably a bad idea, since IY"H there will be more, and I cannot maintain, but ....I really want to do something special, we are so excited!! BH I have a great relationship with her, I will discuss with her

Ahuva's Mommy

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 3:19 pm

My husband has done this for me. He gets a smaller version of my original ones. They come in pairs of two so the first Yom Tov after my second was born, he got it for me. It was a complete surprise and I was so touched!

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